Thinker19 Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 So up until about a month ago, I was crushing very hard on this guy in one of my classes. Very hard. It was mostly in a physical sense, as I did not ever get to know him very well. It turned out that he had a girlfriend but I was still extremely attracted to him. But I thought hey I'll get over it, happens all the time. Where it gets complicated is here: I also started liking his best friend, purely in a physical sense too at first. We all have mutual friends. It was not quite as much an attraction as with the first guy, but it was definitely there despite this. This guy made a move on me, I reciprocated. I didn't have time to properly 'get over' my silly crush with guy 1, and I don't think it will subside any time soon because of the fact that I was so so attracted to him. This is where the guilt is kicking in. I feel I have more of an emotional connection with guy 2 who is "courting" me now because we have gotten to know each other and our personalities go together well, but I am still extremely physically attracted to guy 1. I am worried that if I do end up with guy 2, I may start to like guy 1 more (because they are friends and I will inevitably see more of him) and I may start to like him as a person. I know he has a girlfriend so nothing would happen but it is these feelings of guilt that I cannot deal with. It gets more complicated because guy 1 has mentioned on more than one occasion that he finds me attractive. The guy that likes me (and he likes me so so much) is right for me in so many ways but I feel that the attraction for his friend is constantly going to make me feel guilty and get in the way of things. I hate this feeling and I want it to subside more than anything in the world. I really do not know what to do because I am starting to develop feelings for guy 2. Part of me believes that it would be easier to walk away from all of this now rather than later. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Edit: Even weirder is the fact that they know I liked both of them and that I made out with guy 2 when I still liked the first one, although I liked them both at this point... I think I need to walk away now. Link to comment
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