CasualDude10 Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Ill answer yours. but heres the problem Me and this girl like each other and have been texting for a couple weeks. Her dads gay and shes really selfconscious about it. She even told me she was and s Im the first one shes opened up to it about fast. Well one day she asked me what i was doing and my friend texted her saying having gay sex. She never texted back and today we talked and i apologized over 300 times and she said lets just be friends. Is it too late to get her back? We talked more and she said 100% reason why is because of the text and shes serious about being just friends. My friend sent her a text apologizing today she still hasnt responded. Should I give her her space?is it too late? how can i get her back? im crazy for her! is she overreacting? Link to comment
OracleofDoom Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Give her space. Go no contact for like six weeks, show you've moved on...and then try again. Link to comment
MizzGee Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 I'd be super pissed at that friend... but they obviously didn't know so they probably feel bad enough as it is. If she's not willing to believe you, then she's not the one for you. She needs to get over feeling so selfconscious about something she has no control over Link to comment
xTomorrowWhenx Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 I can almost relate to how the girl's feeling. And let me tell you how I think she feels. She's upset on how you/your friend have made a joke about being gay and all. I understand how she's self conscious about her gay father and she feels insulted that you would say such a thing. And maybe, because honestly, that what us girls kind of do, she's overreacting a little bit. But you have to understand, this is an important thing for her. And maybe she gets the fact that your friend said that, not you, but is still upset about it. Also, she's only saying to just be friends is because she likes you, still, and she wants to keep you somewhere near her. But, she's also hurt and insulted by the text so, she really doesn't know what to do. So, really, she is overreacting a bit. And honestly, if you give her space, it might seem to her that you really didn't care anyways. I think. in my opinion, you should tell her how crazy you are for her, and how sorry you are about it. It's not about the quantity, but the quality. You have to prove to her that you really mean that your sorry, or your apologizing about what your friend did to her. You have to convince her, and then, just maybe, she'll accept your apology and it'll be alright again. I hope this helps. Link to comment
gluestick Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 ^This. It's not so much an issue of her refusing to forgive you for your friend offending her, as much as it's an issue about her own self-consciousness or feeling shameful of her gay father. Link to comment
CasualDude10 Posted February 23, 2012 Author Share Posted February 23, 2012 ive already told her i like her a ton. shes told me like 2-3 times beiing friends is the best thing to do. im so confused haha. Link to comment
OracleofDoom Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Telling her you like her a ton was a bigger mistake than your friend making a gay joke. Go no contact and no more apologziing and definitely no being her friend...what that joke was so offensive but you could still be her friend?...she gave you the heave ho for other reasons. Link to comment
CasualDude10 Posted February 23, 2012 Author Share Posted February 23, 2012 Telling her you like her a ton was a bigger mistake than your friend making a gay joke. Go no contact and no more apologziing and definitely no being her friend...what that joke was so offensive but you could still be her friend?...she gave you the heave ho for other reasons. alright thanks! just dont want to lose her haha. im pissed at my friend btw. not talking to him for a good minute Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 I would give her some space, and hold off contacting her for a week or so. I would avoid discussing anything concerning her with your friends, which may have led her to lose any trust she had invested in you. How did your friends get a hold of your cell phone? Link to comment
offplanet Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 You didn't do anything wrong, it was your friend who did. She shouldn't be holding this against you after you've apologized. I agree that you shouldn't apologize any more. You should keep your dignity by being a bit reserved now, if she's going to be like that, more or less punishing you for someting that you didn't do. Enough is enough. Don't grovel. Back off and let her come to you. It will work better anyway. Link to comment
CasualDude10 Posted February 23, 2012 Author Share Posted February 23, 2012 I would give her some space, and hold off contacting her for a week or so. I would avoid discussing anything concerning her with your friends, which may have led her to lose any trust she had invested in you. How did your friends get a hold of your cell phone? i had it charging and went to the bathroom. Link to comment
CasualDude10 Posted February 23, 2012 Author Share Posted February 23, 2012 You didn't do anything wrong, it was your friend who did. She shouldn't be holding this against you after you've apologized. I agree that you shouldn't apologize any more. You should keep your dignity by being a bit reserved now, if she's going to be like that, more or less punishing you for someting that you didn't do. Enough is enough. Don't grovel. Back off and let her come to you. It will work better anyway. ok! thanks for your opinion Link to comment
shykind Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Telling her you like her a ton was a bigger mistake than your friend making a gay joke. Go no contact and no more apologziing and definitely no being her friend...what that joke was so offensive but you could still be her friend?...she gave you the heave ho for other reasons. Oracleofdoom, you really are a oracle. stop apologizing, now!! drop her, she probably doesn't want you anymore and is trying to make excuses.(sorry it happens) Do not try to be her friend. Anybody with common sense knows how male friends act with each other; we're jerks. She has her own problem with her father being gay. and how could the joke be so offensive that she no longer likes you, but want to remain friends? I'll tell you one thing, if a girl really likes you, she'll forgive the biggest mistake. I've seen it, they were worst that this joke. Drop her, DO NOT contact this girl, DO NOT tell her you like her, "tons" that's worst that calling her dad the F-Word, to his face, Delete her phone number even. Link to comment
CasualDude10 Posted February 23, 2012 Author Share Posted February 23, 2012 Oracleofdoom, you really are a oracle. stop apologizing, now!! drop her, she probably doesn't want you anymore and is trying to make excuses.(sorry it happens) Do not try to be her friend. Anybody with common sense knows how male friends act with each other; we're jerks. She has her own problem with her father being gay. and how could the joke be so offensive that she no longer likes you, but want to remain friends? I'll tell you one thing, if a girl really likes you, she'll forgive the biggest mistake. I've seen it, they were worst that this joke. Drop her, DO NOT contact this girl, DO NOT tell her you like her, "tons" that's worst that calling her dad the F-Word, to his face, Delete her phone number even. lol she told me twice that maybe we can have something in the future Link to comment
shykind Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 lol she told me twice that maybe we can have something in the future Operative word there is MAYBE, and what the hell does "future" means. But if you want to continue to pursue this girl, then do so. But I wish you would take caution in your pursuit, I don't even know her and i don't trust her. and i hope you didn't ask her if you guys had a chance, and that she told you this without any inquisition on your part, cause that would be bad. Link to comment
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