reboundstudent Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 I dated a guy for about 3 1/2 years. Thus far, it's been my longest and most serious relationship. In the last two years, we've been very on-and-off... he jerked me around a lot (would tell me how much he loved me and wanted to date me, and then refuse to speak to me for weeks), and about six months ago we finally stopped speaking to each other for good. Lately I've been seeing him pop up a lot on a mutual friend's Facebook wall. He is not my friend, and this is a girl we've both known for about 6 years. I always felt he had a strong attraction to her (frankly, all of my boyfriends have, she's like the better version of me), but he would always deny it. His comments are always of the "Look how witty and funny I am" variety, and a lot of them mention how cute/sexy/funny she is. She almost always "likes" his comments. She's throwing a party in a few weeks, and he's written on her wall three or four times how excited he is to hang out with her. (He lives about two hours away from us.) I don't try to seek out this stuff, but I comment a lot on her stuff as well. I know the relationship is over, but it's making me very uncomfortable to think they'll hook up or start dating. I would never tell her she can't (not my right to dictate who she dates), but I'm not sure how I should prepare myself if it happens. Truth be told, I still have strong feelings for the guy, but he was such an awful jerk to me that I refuse to open Pandora's Box again. It really hurts to think that after I spent months trying so hard with him emotionally beating me up, I'll have to see him be the perfect boyfriend to a close friend of mine. Has anyone else been in this situation? How can I privately deal with this so it doesn't effect my friendship with her? Link to comment
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