long distance boyfriend broke up with me

[links12]

we're only long distance for the winter jan through april because that's the semester he is off in school and i'm in school during that time.. and we're not together for like a month in the summer so thats 5 months out of the year basically. he had been acting weird for about a month or so because he didnt know what to do he has other stuff on his mind and things going on in his life and at first he said i wasnt the problem but then during this past month he was basically going back and forth between texting me a bit and ignoring me but we cut off our communication a lot because he would only say good morning and goodnight but later on he stopped calling to say goodnight. i thought things were getting better last weekend as he hinted getting me something for vday but actually he didnt get me anything and after vday he didnt talk to me for two days and then i finally asked him what was up and he sent me a few texts but then ignored me later and then i realized we should probably talk on the phone. we didnt get to talk on the weekend but then yesterday we talked and he wanted to break up. i saw it coming for sure but i had tried to tell him positive things and tried so hard to tell him to hold on until we saw eachother and basically his whole deal was that he didnt wanna do long distance at all. he said he still loved me and cared about me but it wouldnt be fair to eachother if we stayed together. i tried to convince him to wait one more month but he still said it was just too hard to keep being together and then apart. that conversation finished in the morning but then at night we talked more in depth and i was a little more calm but i asked him to tell me exactly why because everyone had been saying the distance thing was a cop out and he said no thats pretty much it, i asked him if he cheated he said no but idk it really sounded like he still really cared about me and still called me by the nickname he made up for me and when i said you're not even affected by this he said "who said i'm not?" and so i dont know what to think. i told him that i wouldnt be able to remain in contact with him for now and that i would not talk to him anymore and that i didnt know for how long and he said he understood but he said if i needed anything he was there for me. he told me he didnt want me to feel like this and wanted me to feel happy and so my question is, what are the odds that he will regret the break up??? I feel like he broke up with me but did he really really want to ??? he said he still cared about me and loved me and i'm hoping he will miss me during this NC break up and i hope he would contact me or come see me when he comes up for school. i am still gonna do everything i can to move on but i really hope inside that he would come back. Did i make a mistake by telling him i was gonna need some time away to move on and not talk to him? he knows i am hurt by this but maybe he will miss me?? im not sure but i feel horrible right now, i cant even eat because i feel sick to my stomach and just miss him a lot and i feel like we deserve another chance. should i try to contact him a little after hes back up here in school? he said it would be nice if we could be friends after i have my time off but i dont think im gonna move on in a month help!

[Mephisto13]

Unfortunately the dumper rarely misses the dumpee. Or realizes that they made a mistake and come crawling back.

 

Sorry to say, don't count on getting back together with him. His actions kinda tell me that he probably found someone else of interest.

 

If he doesn't want to get back together with you, there is no chance at "another shot". It takes two to tango...and you don't want to be in a relationship where all you do is live for your partner, bending to his every whim, hoping that he will love you again.

 

You can fall in love, you can fall out of love but you can't force love.

[lonelyheart2]

Wow the similarities with my situation are uncanny! Difference is my ex boyfriend and I broke up about 7/8 months ago. He still randomly sends breadcrumbs my way but i have no reason to believe he is hoping for a reconciliation. However, I would say that I do not doubt for a second that he meant everything he said and I do not think he hid from me that he was interested in someone else. I am not just saying that to make myself happy, a lot of people just aren't capable of being able to handle a long distance relationship and unfortunately in our cases we have to respect our exes decision. I hope that you are doing ok, I know this must be a really hard time for you but I am sure that you will be able to get through this and come out of it stronger person in the end, lots of hugs for you

[links12]

thing is he's always been a blunt guy, never tells you what you wanna hear just straight up honest and i asked him straight up if it was someone else, i know guys lie about that obviously but i as well doubt that was the reason. i'm not expecting to get back with him which is why i told him no contact so i can just take my time and move on yet ive seen many cases where they do go back. but yeah i guess you're right. no freaking hope

[links12]

yeah aside from the long distance i just think i messed up a lot of things during the relationship and thinking about how stupid i was just makes me ever more mad. I wanted to hope for him to come back but i guess it only happens to some people. thanks a lot thought i hope i get through it faster than ever.