justinvernon Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 Hello, I'm new here! (I am not the real Justin Vernon, don't send me fan mail ) I've been around this forum a couple of weeks but just now managed to sign up. I dated this girl for about a year though we never made it official. She ended it some 4 months ago by saying she wasn't in love and didn't know if this relationship would progress any further. She wanted to be friends which I turned down, then she began to clutching at straws asking me if she could call me sometimes and such. I said that would be fine but don't expect any contact from me. I have been in this situation before with another girl, well two other girls actually. These are pretty much the same kind of girl. I seem to fall for these ones. These girls want me when I'm being a challenge but as soon as I reciprocate and they 'get' me, they stop investing which makes me invest more and the balance is shifted, they become distant then dumps me with 'insert random excuse about their feelings'. The relationships themselves has been brilliant, lots of laughing and teasing, doing fun stuff and awesome sex. So usually they come crawling back after a month or so. They want what they can't have and especially what they once had but what's no longer available to them. I think it's human nature. And with space they realized that they actually did like me. Either way I've always done the 'NC thing' (I run from hurt) naturally before I knew what it was. So I'm perplexed, why hasn't this latest one come back? Or atleast contacted me? Did I burn a bridge by saying I won't contact her? Did she interpret as 'i dont want any contact with you'? Should I make contact and open the communication channel between us or would that be percieved as lower my value? We have not had any contact since the breakup. Perhaps I'm just being impatient. When I log on onto Facebook she's usually online but after I've been online for 5-10 minutes she logs off. Every single time. That I really don't get. The break up was friendly so I can't fathom any hard feelings from her side. Why is she doing this? I can understand she not coming back, perhaps she's met someone else there's nothing one can do about that but her post break up behavour (or lack of) is making me confused. I am dating so I'm not moping around after this girl but I think I'd still like a final stab at the relationship with her. Link to comment
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