RGWT Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 In a nutshell: Not sure if I'll ever forget about this one. It's your typical guy = ungrateful, remote, unable to love properly, and girl = fed up, want's to move on. In this situation, she put up with my own personal problems for 3 years. She wanted to get couple counseling, try different types of things to get things back on track. Alot of special occasions were ruined, we stopped being intimate for a year which scarred her making her feel unnattractive. From Nov-December of 2011 she didn't even wan't to hear from me, so much resentment and was angry at the person I was. During Christmas we spent two weeks together, it was great, she had saw I changed and amazed at how genuinely different I had become. She got back home in the states and said she still has flashbacks of the scarring past, being hurt, and that she wants us to move on. Last week we had a convo, we were to stop talking then become friends in the future hopefully once moved on, she doesn't want to lose me as a friend. During that week it was Valentines day, it took a toll on her and she sent me texts. I ignored for about 4 days then finally caved. I knew it was just lingering emotions that didn't mean anything, and she confirmed she simply missed me and nothing more. She then apologized and said it wouldn't happen again even tho she thinks of me constantly. This Sunday we had another conversation, she kept saying she know's "us" and that we'll talk again in the future and eventually become friends. It was not a heated conversation. My last words were: "6 years of friendship is a long time, but I don't think I can remain friends. Just like you have grown, so have I, so you can't say you know "US" anymore. As much as I love you and have changed for the better, I need it all erased and wan't to move on, i wouldn't have messaged you this week if you didn't sound so serious and persistent. If you ever miss me just realize that you're only having a moment, and that I'm probably doing the exact same thing you are. If anything does change with you in the future, I'm already gone. Goodbye (talking to opposite sex). Hang up I was just fed up and it's never felt so real, thing's are detrimental right now as busy as I keep myself. I have a movie date this week but still. I never cheated on this woman, but she is still very hurt. 1. It's my birthday in March and i'm about 70% sure she'll send me a fb message or call me. Part of me really want's to answer and show her how well I'm doing, at least I hope I am by then. Just be completely nonchalant, not over do it 2. Another part of me want's to make my facebook wall not private so she can check my wall whenever. Not to boast, but let her know I'm moving on and always have her check it. I know myself, it's difficult for me to love in general and I won't be over this for a very long time. I was very persistent with her for giving me closure, i NEVER once "Begged" for her back, even tho I did push her away at times and annoyed her, I just needed lot's of closure. I'm just glad I proved to her that I'm finally myself, she had stated that if this was me last year we probably would have got married because I would be the perfect boyfriend. She just can't get over it. She always brings up what she wen't through for 2 years and that she doesn't feel bad for me, there is definitely some pride involved. At times I think she is selfish, because I swallow my pride a while ago and forgot about things. Anyways, thanks for listening. Link to comment
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