susie91 Posted February 21, 2012 Share Posted February 21, 2012 hi everyone Ive been with my guy for a year and a half. Im 20 and he is 26. We have been living together for half that time and things have been not so great for the last 4 or 5 months. We fight constantly and its over the smallest things. Its usually him who will start a fight. Our fights have gotten a little physical before and there is alot fo verbal abuse from both ends. We have been trying to work things out until about 3 weeks ago when i learned that I could go to live in america with my mum and family and get my citizenship. Unfortunetly this can only happen if they petition for me before im 21 which is only 2 months away. If they wait until after im 21 then its around a 7 year wait. (to catch you up: my mother married a man from over there 3 years ago and has been living there with my brother since, they now have a little 2yr old girl who i love so much. I only see them once a year and ive always regretted not going with them. Unfortunetly until now we all thought that i had missed my chance to go) So anyway i know if i dont go then i will always regret it. Its a fantastic opportunity and not only that, i will get to be around my family as we are very close. I know if i choose to go then it will be over between me and my guy as he cannot come and a long distance wont work. In about 2 weeks from now we had planned to move and now that may not be happening. I need to make my decision pretty much now. its driving me insane!!!! I do love him but i feel there is a big arse wall between us. I dont know if i can risk staying to make it work and then it not work and i miss out on going to america for good. Need some advice. I feel like i cant leave him. i dont know why as one minute hes nice and the next hes verbally abusive. I have lost all my self esteem because of him. Do i love him or am i just comfortable and scared of change??? Link to comment
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