Unusual situation

[dansmi12345]

My ex and I have a very unusual situation. Basically, we broke up because we didn't want to do long distance, but it is pretty likely we'll be together if we're both single when I get back to her country (in a few months). Things have been going pretty smoothly until now. We talk, but we don't overdo it. We have skyped once or twice, but not all the time, and we have avoided being sappy with the I miss yous and all that. Unfortunately, I've started to feel weird about things in the last day or two. There isn't really a huge trigger to this, but facebook doesn't help. There's some guy writing all over her wall, but she doesn't really appear to be responding, so even if he is pursuing something, there's no evidence to suggest that anything is going on. She also sent me a nice note on Valentines Day, so I'm not really sure why I feel this way. It's very weird. Anyway, my question is, what do I do? Do I tell her I need to go NC, which would hurt the possibility of getting back together with her at some point? Or do I keep doing what I'm doing, which is making me feel pretty crappy today? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[velvette]

I don't think NC will hurt one way or the other. if she's gonna date someone else she will anyway. sucks that you guys couldn't just agree not to date around for a few months! I mean, if it's the LDR communications you guys hate, just agree to settle with little communication, but really no need to break up... seems like whoever prompted the break up has GIGS and wants to be free for a bit. I really don't get breaking up for just a few months if there's nothing else wrong. unless, of course, you guys are a newer relationship, less than three months old?

[dansmi12345]

I don't think NC will hurt one way or the other. if she's gonna date someone else she will anyway. sucks that you guys couldn't just agree not to date around for a few months! I mean, if it's the LDR communications you guys hate, just agree to settle with little communication, but really no need to break up... seems like whoever prompted the break up has GIGS and wants to be free for a bit. I really don't get breaking up for just a few months if there's nothing else wrong. unless, of course, you guys are a newer relationship, less than three months old?

 

Well, we had dated for a while, then broke up for a few months, and had only been back together for roughly a month prior to my leaving. That's why we decided to break up. It was the epitome of mutual, and we came to the decision after a lengthy conversation that we both knew we were going to have to have prior to my leaving.