progamz1 Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 I have been dating this "good girl" for almost 7 years. We have been having minor issues that we manage to work with. The past two years have been going even smoother. While her biggest concern is "when are we going to get engaged/married!", I just tell her after I finish college we will. I can't explain how content I was with the RS until yesterday. I asked her about the number of guys that she had sex with before we started dating (not the first time I asked of course & We started dating while were 16 btw). I was 100% sure I was told it was one (7 years ago) then all of a sudden it turns that she did so with another guy (a few times) before we dated. Although that guy is no longer living in the same state, she talks to him on the phone at least 4-5 times a week. For a very long period of time, I thought they were just regular friends (with no sexual history) but I guess she wasn't proud of what happened so she didn't want to mention it (or so she says). Although we aren't very religious, we agreed that we aren't going to have sex till marriage but I guess it started happening since year 2. Yesterday after the whole talk, she told me that she will work on not talking to him again and that it will be hard etc... She tends to keep her word. For some reason, I feel very weird about the RS. It's like I haven't been knowing the whole truth for a very long time. She always claimed that the kind of sex she had with the guy she dated before me was more like "forced sex" and she was scared of telling people about it. Knowing that there was a second guy that I didn't know about.... makes me feel somewhat weird and of course the worst part is that she has been friends with him for a while. I was actually scared of even asking about what kind of sex it was or such.... I have been living for a very long portion of my "adult" life dating this girl but I can't seem to set my mind straight and forget about it like it is some sort of unnecessary past. I have been completely honest with her about everything. I couldn't even think of a black deep secret to tell her about my past in response to this. Can anyone offer any suggestion to how to fix my feelings or what to do? Thanks in advance. Link to comment
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