Nickles Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 After a month LC I met up with him. We were together for 5 years. I'm still in love with him, very much. I got dressed up and went to our house. We're renting together and some of my stuff is still there. Our lease is up at the end of April so he's staying until then. So I arrived and he was telling me all about the new car he had bought. I thought I was calling to the house and maybe go for a short spin in the car. He suggests dinner. So we go for a long drive and chat about the car and our mutual love for dubstep music. I chose a place for dinner that we had never been to and that I thought I wouldn't bump into anyone I know. The setting ended up being romantic and we had a nice time chatting. A great time....nothing personal just about life. We then go and collect his sister who is staying up with him for the weekend as she's seeing friends in the city we live in. It's my first time meeting her since the break up and she is very very friendly with me. He suggests coffee back and the house so I have coffee...then I notice he has taken down pics of me so I got upset. We spoke in private then. I cried. I did not say I loved him still nor did I ask to get back together but I did say sorry and ask was the break up my fault. I believe it was as I had become self absorbed due to stress. He said let's not talk about this. I had an amazing day with you today and enjoyed telling you all about the car. I cried a bit more and said sorry and that I should leave. He said it's understandable that I'm upset and we can't expect to be the best of friends all of a sudden. So I left....not in a tantrum but in a smiling through tears kind of way. I text when I get home saying, "I had a wonderful day but we shouldn't have gone back to the house as it overwhelmed me" he wrote back saying, "yeah me too" so I wrote back saying, "I think the best thing would be for us to get the house sorted right away. We can divide our stuff and discuss what's mine and what's yours. Then after that we should take a break and maybe catch up after a while when we're not feeling raw and meet somewhere neutral" He wrote back saying, "sure that's great. I'll ask my sister to be out of the house for a while tomorrow." So I said, "We'll just get it done, not talk about anything heavy and it will be easier to meet in a few weeks." He said, "sure sounds great. I'll see you when you get down tomorrow". My dad thinks we'll reconcile but that we won't live together for a long long time. I think the same but I don't think we have any chances of knowing how we feel about each other while I still have stuff in the house and a tie to him like that. I think if we don't get back together this will be the right thing to do also. My question to you is....am I doing the right thing here...moving out so quick? Or does it look mean or spiteful. The last thing I want to do is hurt either of us or play games. Link to comment
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