jellyfish Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 I've been in a relationship for 6 years. We live together and everything was good, we'd get through difficult times and support each other. But for the majority we had fun and were very much in love. He started being distant two weeks ago and disappeared for three days. Then when he appeared back he explained it was because he wasn't sure what he wanted and he was confused. This was out of nowhere for me, so I started soul searching and came to the conlusion that I may have been distant recently and he had been working very hard. He agreed to work at the relationship but I still had this sinking feeling in my stomach. I hadn't been able to eat much and couldn't think of much else. So I was in limbo for the next week, he was constantly on Facebook and checking his phone but wasn't texting or calling me. As time went by I got more and more angry. We met up for a drink on Valentines day and he was the same distant shell of a man. I cooked for him the next day and we were still having sex. Last night walking home from work I wished for a reason and hoped things would get better. He wasn't in and stayed out all night. I had a dream my teeth were falling out and that he'd completely rejected me, along with my friends. I've since found out it can mean I feel helpless and full of anxiety. This morning, I went onto my laptop to find he'd left himself logged in. Lo and behold, I found a thread of flirty messages between him and another girl, instigated by him. He sent her a valentines card online, and it was a struggle to breathe let alone think. In the early hours he'd asked if she'd like to meet up. He came home and I confronted him and he immediately snapped back to normal, saying he'd met her on a night out and wouldn't actually have met up with her again. He asked if there was anything he could do and can we talk about it. I love him to the bottom of my soul. But I don't see any other way than splitting up after he has emotionally drained me the last two weeks and made me doubt myself. I feel I have to be strong and protect myself, but at the same time I'm completely heartbroken and aching to feel loved again. I haven't been into work today and can't face seeing my friends and family. I'm not sure what to do from here? Link to comment
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