replytome Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Just checked my exes facebook, and she had written on a Bellydancing places wall, asking to join classes... I have increasingly been realising since the breakup that she was sooo wrong for me. I mean, she really wasn't even close to being who I thought she was. Turns out she is what I would call trashy, easy and a ''slag''... This makes me sad. Link to comment
Thorshammer Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 I personally dont see it as "bad". Some women see that like the way some guys see themselves joining a karate class. Its for fun. Link to comment
Snny Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Bellydancing is not even close to being I have a friend who has a loving husband and a 6 month old baby who bellydances as a stress reliever (she also does bellydancing performances at a couple Renaissance festivals with a troupe). If anything, pole dancing is more promiscuous. Link to comment
lanaa Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 whaat not even close! you should maybe watch some videos of it? it is really nice i know girls that do bellydance and they are nice girls,far away from Link to comment
replytome Posted February 18, 2012 Author Share Posted February 18, 2012 I guess it depends on how the actual girl see it? I really don't know what it is, haven't seen it apart from in some films. Do people do it for exercise then? Like yoga or what not? Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 I guess it depends on how the actual girl see it? I really don't know what it is, haven't seen it apart from in some films. Do people do it for exercise then? Like yoga or what not? Yes. One of the moderators on here has done it and she is no were NEAR that S word. Link to comment
Snny Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Do people do it for exercise then? Like yoga or what not? Yes. Its the same reason why some women take Zumba (lot of butt shaking) and pole dancing. Link to comment
Sim54 Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 What your ex does is none of your business. Even if she does 'trashy' stuff, you are just justifying your breakup. You liked her for a reason, so either you were blind to her, or she was deliberately hiding stuff from you. She's an ex for a reason. Forget it. Link to comment
chitown9 Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 I see belly dancing as a skill and a perforance of art. Something beautiful to be admired. ..chi:strawberry: Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Bellydancing is just another form of dancing. However there is a sex appeal with it. No, strippers dance differently. Link to comment
pinkelephant Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 it's beautiful and sexy... but no, it's not *that word*. at all. lol. Link to comment
In the Dark Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Never associated with belly dancing. I see it as an art form more along the lines of ballet rather than something which seems to cheapen the person. It also makes me think of Kebabs and Turkish Delights. Link to comment
greywolf Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Bellydancing is a beautiful form of dance that has a very long history and is very cultural. Trashy? I think not. Link to comment
JonasWaingaro Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Yeah it's great. A really cool form of dance. Link to comment
Silverbirch Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Boree Hon, my opinion, for most women doing belly dancing NO, it is not . I've done it myself, and your post has made me think it's just what I need to do again. When I did it before, it was a class of all women, most of them were either doing it for medical reasons - one had severe arthritis and after a reasonable period of time, her flexibility increased and her pain decreased. A number of women were doing it because they had babies and wanted to get some tone back into their stomachs. The instructor I had demonstrated the difference between and sensuously seductive, but few women would belly dance publicly. I grew up in a multi-cultural community and had neighbours and good friends from Middle Eastern backgrounds. My good friends family was very strict and there was a lot of segregation between males and females, but we had a great time with the women. The women would get together privately, drink Turkish coffee and eat nice food and joke around a lot. It would have been even better if there had been belly dancing. My understanding is that belly dancing, especially in Middle Eastern cultures is mostly a past time women do amongst other women. Believe it or not, some women love the company of other women and are not even gay. LOL! I know that for many people from Middle Eastern cultural backgrounds, belly dancing, at least in public, in mixed company is not considered a proper thing to do. If she isn't from a Middle Eastern background, for her, the thought that it might not be a proper thing has probably not even occurred to her, and even if she did do it in public, people may not be offended. Link to comment
blueplanet22 Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Seriously? Could understand if it was pole dancing or lap dancing classes but its just bellydancing, good fun way to get fit. For your own sanity block your ex on FB and look after yourself. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Seriously? Could understand if it was pole dancing or lap dancing classes but its just bellydancing, good fun way to get fit. For your own sanity block your ex on FB and look after yourself. pole dancing classes as well aren't like that - many women take pole dancing classes to lose weight. Link to comment
sandrawg Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 What? You think your ex is a sl*ut because she wants to take bellydancing classes??? Yeah..you guys were definitely wrong for each other, then, but not for the reason you think. Go read up on bellydancing. It's not only a centuries-old art form, it's also a great way to get exercise. Just checked my exes facebook, and she had written on a Bellydancing places wall, asking to join classes... I have increasingly been realising since the breakup that she was sooo wrong for me. I mean, she really wasn't even close to being who I thought she was. Turns out she is what I would call trashy, easy and a ''slag''... This makes me sad. Link to comment
sandrawg Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 And I also agree with the others who said, quit stalking your ex's Facebook. It's not healthy. Link to comment
replytome Posted February 18, 2012 Author Share Posted February 18, 2012 And I also agree with the others who said, quit stalking your ex's Facebook. It's not healthy. Very true, but I'm not stalking. It seems that every time I'm happy and haven't thought about her in a while, I go and check... it's stupid. Btw, I hope I haven't offended anyone with this post. It was a question, rather than actually saying that it was . Link to comment
bulletproof Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Very true, but I'm not stalking. It seems that every time I'm happy and haven't thought about her in a while, I go and check... it's stupid. If you're looking to get over her, don't think too much about how you can cut her down (calling her easy, a slag, ). Think more about the good stuff about yourself instead. It's nicer, it's healthier, and you'll feel better faster. Link to comment
eternalsunrise Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Just checked my exes facebook, and she had written on a Bellydancing places wall, asking to join classes... I have increasingly been realising since the breakup that she was sooo wrong for me. I mean, she really wasn't even close to being who I thought she was. Turns out she is what I would call trashy, easy and a ''slag''... This makes me sad. A person shops at Target. That doesn't make Target because they sell underwear. You're looking for reasons to vilify her. Just stop. If you think she has qualities that you don't like, why are you after her still? In order to heal from a person who isn't right for you, you have to stop looking them up. You will find someone better if you put your energy into new people who are right for you! Link to comment
replytome Posted February 18, 2012 Author Share Posted February 18, 2012 I'm not ''after'' her at all. I've been NC for 10 months now... Not once did I contact her, and when she tried coming back I wouldn't have any of it. I just feel as if I got conned, and my ego and selfesteem got such a big hit from the relationship and BU that I'm still recovering. I'm not trying to vilify her. She was a ''slag'', there's no way around it, I'm pretty sure she cheated on me in the beginning of our relationship, and pretty sure she did at the end, but since I didn't have proof, I pretended (assumed) she didn't. Literally a few weeks before she started dating me, she had 3 guys on the go as , and she kept talking to them, and they kept flirting with her once I got with her. She tried her best to hide it from me, and 4 months or so into the relationship I found out about them, and then that she still had a picture of one of them on her wall, which of course I didnt know. She would flirt with my friends, and deny it. And in the end she dumped me because she wanted to ''be single'', and instead went straight to a colleague of hers, which she probably cheated on me with the times they went out and I thought it was innocent. The whole time she and I convinced myself that the period before me she was depressed and therefore did what she did. I guess I didn't have enough self-respect to leave her once I was in love, because I deserve to have someone that is a better match. And I guess I don't have too much self-respect now either, since I went back to her facebook... I'm sure it's about the ego, and about being pissed off with myself for having been so blind and stupid. All I did was ask if bellydancing was ...that's sometimes how it's portrayed in films, I've got no clue about in real life, hence the question. Anyway, thanks for your opinions and again, I hope no one took offense. Link to comment
quirky Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 It's not but it can be sensual/sexual. It really depends. Many women do take it up as exercise + a way to feel more 'feminine'. Back in my home country there is a form of belly dancing and very often it is done to show off a little, to entice. As an art form I think it's very beautiful. I have followed some tutorials online, it's quite difficult but I would only dance to myself or with a partner. Maybe it's just me but I think the reason I wouldn't publicly dance is because there is something sexy to it. Link to comment
greywolf Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Mod Note: Please be mindful of the words that you use. If it is a censored word, evading the censor is not ok. Link to comment
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