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if a man texts that he's "just saying hi and that he was thinking about you and hopes you are having a great day".....but he's not single?

 

Well, okay, is he someone you've been friends with? I have to admit, I am in a relationship of 3 years and would by no means ever cheat or hit on anyone, but I definitely have friends who are male to whom I've texted something along those lines. I also am sure my boyfriend has texted female friends something along those lines just to catch up. I believe that's fine and healthy and can genuinely just be with intent of saying hello and making sure we haven't lost our friendships to our relationship...

 

However, if he's someone you don't really know or only met once, and how (bar, party, etc), that could be a little weird. Either way, I wouldn't necessarily read him as a shady guy right off the bat.

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If you two are really good friends, I think it's harmless. I have a male friend who would send me a message like that, whether he was in a relationship or not. I don't see anything wrong with his message.

 

I have male friends who would message me like that, but then again, we have long established friendships, and they are more like girlfriends to me. I don't know the poster's history, that sure has a lot to do with it.

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Depends the relation you have with this man.

 

Considering that you are stumped to the message i assume it seems like a feeler message- he waits for you to feed on it, then he will push the boundaries.

 

My bestfriend was, is, and still a female, and i dont send her messages telling her that I am thinking about her (but then again thats just me).

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I was going to say it that it depended on who the guy was, whether he was a friend or not but I gathered by the fact the OP is analysing his message that he is someone she likes ....

 

 

Well, I do have to admit we have kissed a few times, but that was it....

 

And keep it that way! He has a gf so he is stringing you along. Do you really want to get with a guy that could potentially string you along too? Leave things alone, he has a gf.

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My bestfriend was, is, and still a female, and i dont send her messages telling her that I am thinking about her (but then again thats just me).

I second this. It's one thing to say "just wanted to say hi" but when he adds that he's "thinking of you"...well, there's a certain implication there, one that he is no doubt well aware of. Especially if you're not best-of-buds, we-go-way-back kind of friends

 

The ultimate test for whether behavior between men and women who are not in relationships goes like this: "Would they say this to a friend in whom they had no ulterior interests?" For example, would he say that to one of his guy friends? I don't think I'd ever tell a guy friend I was "thinking of him" unless maybe they were suicidal or I had reason to be concerned for their welfare. But still.

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