BeatrixKiddo Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Ever since my ex boyfriend broke up with me a year and a half ago, I'm interested in a guy. Like REALLY interested. However, at this point in my life I don't feel very confident in my ability to flirt or show that I'm attracted to someone. I feel like I have naturally closed off body language, and that might make me unapproachable. (Like crossing my arms, not smiling as much). I worry I will either come off on either extreme of the spectrum - as bored or uninterested, or might go over the top and be too forward, seeming a little TOO interested - how do I find a good balance? An important thing: this guy is a teacher assistant for a lab; he's not a professor, but is or was a student, and I'm guessing about two to three years younger than me. So, the fact that he's a TA makes me a little unsure how to approach this. I've chit chatted with him a couple of times after class about classwork (unfortunately, not alone). I made a lot of eye contact with him during the last lecture (but this may not mean anything due to the context). And I've made eye contact while we talked face to face, with me breaking it every so often. I didn't smile a lot, though, I was having a bad morning. Link to comment
pl3asehelp Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Probably best to wait until after your class is done, because it would inappropriate and forbidden by the school for him to have any kind of relationship with you if he's got input into what grade you get in the course. The eye contact certainly does send a great message. Once the class is over, just tell him you'd like to keep in touch and get his number, then call him and ask him to get a coffee sometime. Link to comment
BeatrixKiddo Posted February 16, 2012 Author Share Posted February 16, 2012 ... and forbidden by the school for him to have any kind of relationship with you if he's got input into what grade you get in the course... I thought maybe since he wasn't a professor, that it wouldn't be a big deal, but I didn't think about that...CRAP! Well, would it still not be ok to be friendly after class? I have a hunch he's into a certain something, so I may initiate a conversation about it. Link to comment
pl3asehelp Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I thought maybe since he wasn't a professor, that it wouldn't be a big deal, but I didn't think about that...CRAP! Well, would it still not be ok to be friendly after class? I have a hunch he's into a certain something, so I may initiate a conversation about it. Sure, you can be friendly, but you might need to put the brakes on then before going any further until class is over. That awkward pause and loss of momentum might not be good. I'm pretty sure that as long as he either grades your papers, or collects your tests, or basically has any opportunity to influence your grade that is where you need to stay professional. Link to comment
MikNomis Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 You can be friendly sure, get his number or email or something so that you can ask him a question about class outside of class. Link to comment
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