Dibbs Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Long story short. We were together for about 10 months. It was definitely the best time of our lives (she told me that many times even after bu), the emotions were so high, we were so in love with each other it was hard to believe it, the sexual attraction was really enormous, we like and dislike the same things... etc. It really felt like we belong together. Unfortunately I've done and said some really stupid things (we're both 23 yo), but I never cheated on her. I was afraid to commit and I was telling her the exact opposite of how I really felt about her. One day she just couldn't put up with this anymore and decided to leave me. And it changed me right away. This really opened my eyes, I understood she was really the one for me, but I took her for granted and never told her how I really feel about her. I was devastated, I've done all the things they say not to do after being dumped. Begging, crying, promising I would change, flowers, letters, big romantic gestures... literally everything This went on for a few months. Basically she was keeping contact, I didn't really know why she was doing it since she broke up with me. Now I see it was only typical breadcrumbs. This was only creating false hope for me. Every time she contacted me I thought it was a sign she wants to reconcile, but that wasn't the case. She had some weaker moments, telling me she misses me, she thinks about us etc. but it didn't really meant anything. After about 4 months I told her not to contact me unless she wants to talk about us and reconcile. We kept no contact for about 1 month and I was starting to move on and getting my life back together. But one day I looked at my phone and saw a missing call from her... First I ignored it, assuming she must have dialed my number by accident or something. I don't really know why I did it but after a couple of days I asked her on FB why she called back then. After a few short conversations she said that it was something important and that she can tell me about it when we meet if I want to. I asked her to be sure, If she wants to talk about us, and she said yes. Unfortunately she's really busy with her studies and work right now and she can't get along with her mom (still lives with her parents) so she wasn't in mood to serious talk or she she simply didn't have free time. We tried to meet up for over a week, I didn't insist because I didn't want to come accross needy. But the longer this went on the more frustrated I was getting because I really wanted to get back with her and I still love her so much but I had to play tough and indifferent. So I insisted we meet on Valentines day, joking it's the perfect day for a conversation like the one we were about to have. She replied it's a good idea and I thought everything is going in the right direction and I will finally win her back. So I text her on V-day around noon, telling I will pick her up from work in the evening and take her to my place, where I had my room prepared, full of candles and a dinner which I made myself. She replied after some time something like "I don't know if this meeting is a good idea"... I was in total shock... after all she was the one that broke NC and wanted to meet and talk about us... I asked her what happened she changed her mind and she just replied she is afraid and that she thinks things are better for us like they are now. She called me later after work to talk about it, she seemed really unsure about all of this. I told her that what she is doing is really unfair and childish. She agreed and said we probably have to meet and talk about all this afterall. We had a nice long conversation, a lot of reminiscing about how we were great together and stuff. She said she's busy right now but she'll let me know when we can meet... This morning she asked me if I'm free tomorrow from 11:30 to 1 pm. I don't know if that's enough time to talk about reconciliation and actually get back together... Link to comment
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