hidlaw72 Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Hi. My husband and I have been married 17 years. For the past 4 years, he's lived/worked 450 miles away. When he was transferred up there, he was told he could transfer back down in 2 years. Now he is told this will not happen. (he works in Corrections. They are laying off like crazy, but is in a prison no one wants to work in. His position is safe). I am a teacher with 2 teenagers at home. The kids and I do NOT want to move up there with him. I also don't want to lose my job security. He wants us to move up there, mostly so he doesn't have to drive down here every 2 weeks anymore. I understand his frustrations, but I still can't move, even with his endless guilt trips. Our marriage is solid. There is no possibility of divorce, because we love each other too much. When we met on a blind date, it was like Sleepless in Seattle, when Annie met Sam. "Magic". Like we've know each other our whole lives. The thing is I think our marriage is BETTER not living together. Am I crazy to want to be separated like this? It's sad to say but we've lived apart for so long, we would drive each other crazy if we were together every day! (is this a good time to bring up he is a control freak and ultra critical about everything? And so moody! LOL). I'm also happy making my own daily choices. Marriage, with a touch of freedom. I know my husband doesn't want to move back down here by choice. He would transfer for me, but I know he likes living up there. He hates the town I live in. Anyone ever heard of two people living long distance by choice like this? Friends and family just don't understand I'm happier the way things are. Just wondering. Thanks! Heidi Link to comment
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