rustynails Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I have been with my girlfriend for almost three years, and we have lived together for two. About a month ago I gave her a promise ring for her birthday. Over the last two weeks I have slowly been realizing signs both current and from other times within the last year, that she may not be happy with me. I'm not sure if I am making this up in my own head or not. I sometimes think that I am just making stuff up in my head because I am freaking out on a subconscious level about the small commitment I just made. However, I never thought twice about the move and had no freak outs or regrets prior to buying the ring or since. But it just seems that she is an emotional switch all of a sudden. Not that it's obvious or anything. It just seems that I am realizing over the last few months that she is distant and withdrawn from me one day and lovey dovey the next. From some limited researching on the internet, she has very few signs that all the articles suggest how a woman begins the break up process. Really the only one she has shown is a lack of intimacy. We rarely fight, she is still comfortable dressing and undressing with me in the room, and has not changed any of her behaviors in any other way except the withdraw of affection from time to time, and maybe a tiny bit shorter fuse over simple disagreements. I'm in my late 20's and she is in her early 30's, and I have found myself wondering if she may be out of love for me, but merely hanging on for the fact that she would be worried about being single at her age. I am honestly loosing sleep over these thoughts and I know I should be talking about this with her not posting on yahoo, however I see this as a very delicate topic and I am uneasy about bringing it up, especially if it is nothing. I love her, so I don't want to burn any bridges. Any insight would be helpful. Tanks for reading Link to comment
EgoJoe Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Start to emotionally withdraw yourself and see what she does. Update us in a week. Side thought, a promise ring after three years for a woman of her age may not be enough. Withdraw for now and see what she does though. Don't initiate, don't try and sex her up...see if she comes to you. Link to comment
rustynails Posted February 16, 2012 Author Share Posted February 16, 2012 Yeah, the promise ring was casually agreed upon as a step to take. She mentioned wanting one before the other rings several months ago. Link to comment
chickydoodle Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Not that it's obvious or anything. It just seems that I am realizing over the last few months that she is distant and withdrawn from me one day and lovey dovey the next. What is the pattern? Is she lovey, dovey when you are more withdrawn, and distant when you are being clingy? Does affection towards you coincide with stressfree periods at work, hormonal reprieves...... Try and tune in to when the on , off moods occur so you can better guage where she is really at , emotionally. I do not know much detail of your RS but from my own experience -When living together it is important not to be 24/7 in each others company or all sense of mystery disappears. She may be fed up of you at times, then visualise being apart from you- find that unbearable then connect again rather than lose you. This happens. If this is the case E.J's suggestion would work.IMO Link to comment
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