Men, Have Women Ever Approached You For A Date?

[Batya33]

Yes, I have had women come right up to me and ask me out on date. It's interesting. To be honest the dynamic ends up being off after that. I know I know, but it's true.

 

That was my experience too and of most of the people I knew.

[Thorshammer]

There was this one girl that did it so well that it was a turn on. She was this beautiful black woman with short hair, she looked very classy but sexy at the same time. She heard me talking about history and she just kept feeding me and telling me how smart i sounded, i was oblivious to it all until we actually got into an argument about racism- it seemed she allowed me to make a point, she would side with me or just hear me out even if it fought her side, while everyone else she attacked furiously in debate (she was a stranger amongst most of us, but she took leadership despite this and fought her case- very passionately).

 

Plus the way she looked at me and smiled was a turn on. I wasnt single at the time, but for some reason i couldnt stop thinking about her. I do highly respect women who put their foot-down and attract, i think as i get older i start to grow more into being attracted to these types (in my experience- the aggressive ones who approach skillfully (not sexually) tend to be pretty smart, confident and independent).

 

I do tend to feel like man-meat sometimes when it comes to immature women. My friend points out girls staring at me, and that does ruin my fun when i want to just sit back and relax but i cant because i have 3 girls laughing in the corner (i get this alot when i go out of state and i stick out like a new yorker, or what they think is a jersey shore dude). When i am getting looks from an attractive women i feel under the microscope while being judged. This is one of the main reasons why i shoot a glance at someone i might be interested in, wait for a positive response back, then i decide to make a more or not, if i dont, then i go back to what i was doing and leave them alone.

[MasterPo]

I was told a few had but unless it's clear like you stated, "DO YOU WANT TO GO OUT?" then I tend to not decipher hints and such. I don't think its weird but very flattering and impressive - it takes guts to do it! I always say yes, unless I'm in a relationship but even then coffee and open conversation is always offered. Yes, I would tell my SO of it and would expect our relationship be strong enough to handle situations like that. Sometimes it doesn't though.

 

 

 

 

 

I don't know how to ask this exactly.

I'm not saying necessarily that there you were, let's say, at the gym, working out, and this woman approached you and said, "Want to go out on a date?"

 

That is pretty forward and weird.

 

What I mean is, have you had women hit on you? Perhaps she initiated the conversation? Smiled more than usual? Winked?

 

And here's my other question. I've been seeing this guy at the gym a few times so I'm assuming he's a regular. Today I simply asked if somebody was using that equipment to which he said no, then went ahead without me asking and helped me get the plates off the bar. I've been told by men that if a woman approaches them like in this scenario, and if the man offers to help, it's a sign that he likes her.

 

Stories, opinions, etc.

[Generation]

I've been seeing this guy at the gym a few times so I'm assuming he's a regular. Today I simply asked if somebody was using that equipment to which he said no, then went ahead without me asking and helped me get the plates off the bar. I've been told by men that if a woman approaches them like in this scenario, and if the man offers to help, it's a sign that he likes her.

 

Stories, opinions, etc.

 

It's gym etiquette.

 

I've had women hit on me. I'm not gonna lie, I've been pretty uncomfortable about it just cause of their approach sometimes cause it's so straight forward and unexpected and I'm generally not interested.

 

At the same time, when I'm minding my own business and I'm just walking naturally, and a girl hits on me, then it feels like people are watching me and I'm not natural anymore. It becomes more like I gotta act a certain way, like now I gotta walk like I'm cool cause they're gonna be looking at me (even if my walk was cool before, I don't like to think but now I gotta think about it).

[jonny15]

I do tend to feel like man-meat sometimes when it comes to immature women. My friend points out girls staring at me, and that does ruin my fun when i want to just sit back and relax but i cant because i have 3 girls laughing in the corner (i get this alot when i go out of state and i stick out like a new yorker, or what they think is a jersey shore dude). When i am getting looks from an attractive women i feel under the microscope while being judged. This is one of the main reasons why i shoot a glance at someone i might be interested in, wait for a positive response back, then i decide to make a more or not, if i dont, then i go back to what i was doing and leave them alone.

 

This seems more like bragging than anything else.

 

Sounds like a life of hard living to supposedly have all these hot chicks stare at you.

 

Man meat it is.

[WhenWillILove]

 

I do tend to feel like man-meat sometimes when it comes to immature women. My friend points out girls staring at me, and that does ruin my fun when i want to just sit back and relax but i cant because i have 3 girls laughing in the corner (i get this alot when i go out of state and i stick out like a new yorker, or what they think is a jersey shore dude). When i am getting looks from an attractive women i feel under the microscope while being judged. This is one of the main reasons why i shoot a glance at someone i might be interested in, wait for a positive response back, then i decide to make a more or not, if i dont, then i go back to what i was doing and leave them alone.

 

Those 3 girls laughing in the corner, as you put it, must be 18-year-olds or something. I've never seen that happen with older women.