WhenWillILove Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I don't know how to ask this exactly. I'm not saying necessarily that there you were, let's say, at the gym, working out, and this woman approached you and said, "Want to go out on a date?" That is pretty forward and weird. What I mean is, have you had women hit on you? Perhaps she initiated the conversation? Smiled more than usual? Winked? And here's my other question. I've been seeing this guy at the gym a few times so I'm assuming he's a regular. Today I simply asked if somebody was using that equipment to which he said no, then went ahead without me asking and helped me get the plates off the bar. I've been told by men that if a woman approaches them like in this scenario, and if the man offers to help, it's a sign that he likes her. Stories, opinions, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
professorplum Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 A couple of times at clubs women have approached me and started talking and came out with old chat up lines such as Haven't we met before somewhere...... I was flattered but not interested at the time. I have also had women that I know vaguely suggest we meet up somewhere or turn up at a particular place so we can chat. So not asked out as such but all but. It was not very often and I wish women had approached me more because I always found it hard to approach strangers and look and feel cool. You always think of all those missed opportunities. I have had some success approaching women that I have fancied but obviously rejections as well. Still not convinced there is such a thing as a good chat up line that works. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Day_Walker Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I have had women approach me and engage in a short conversation which was followed by an exchange of numbers. This is pretty rare though, but some women have approached me. I am less likely to respond to the passive aggressive signals. I dont think that you can assume by the actions that you have mentioned by him helping you that he likes you, because how can he like you he could say if you were cute or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostandhurt Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Yes I have been hit on, asked out, and had drinks bough for me. It does happen and I do not mind one bit. Did you get his name? Did he ask you his? The whole gym thing is very tricky. Many women get pissed when they are hit on at the gym while others get pissed when they are not. Guys can be very sheepish at the gym for this very reason. Now at a club the women look their best and are in the mood to meet people but not always at the gym. The next time you see him just go up to him and say "Hi, thanks for helping me the other day" "My name is_______" and see how the exchange goes from there. Don't let fear hold you back Lost Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guynextdoor Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Yes it does happen. Hit on at the gym, offered to buy me drinks but that was when I was younger. I do like it because it shows she is confident and knows what she wants. Like others, rarely happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorshammer Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Yes, woman have approached me aggressively, they took initiative and sat accross from me and started a conversation with all smiles, some smiled and stared from a distance, some come out of left field and asked me questions in a large group to single me out, they playfully sat shoulder/shoulder and teased me, some women who i dont know have done very inappropriate things to me. As far as the gym, I would always unload the weight for a woman if its a lot of weight, i go out of my way all the time to do this for any female, especially if its heavy-weight, and especially if i just finished using the weight. There was this one time where i slide off the plates for a woman because i just used the leg press, and i had at least 4 plates on each side, she just looked on smiling- it was just me being helpful, and i doubt she was interested in me. I actually train in my room 90% of the time in my room because of the women sitting around staring (and they are rarely the good looking ones, and if they are the good looking ones it makes my workout uncomfortable even more, lol). Gym is game-time to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pl3asehelp Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I've had all the things you've mentioned happen to me. Totally normal in my experience. So much so in fact that I used to rarely approach women because they approached me so consistently. The situation you described though at the gym I think you could be reading too much info. I think what he did was just basic courtesy, though that doesn't mean he doesn't also like you, but I wouldn't draw that conclusion from this experience alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Actually, I had a girl ask me out very bluntly. It was rather embarrassing, granted, I was just a kid - but still! I was 15 years old camping with family in Canada and I was walking accross a field to the restroom when I kid you not this girl spotted me from accross the field and yells, loud, "Hey HOTTIE I NEED A DATE!!!" .....I ran and hid in the restroom (can't believe I'm admitting this... >_ I've also been approached at the gym (ran away then too) lol! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stay_home Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Yes and I don't think there's anything weird or wrong about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WhenWillILove Posted February 15, 2012 Author Share Posted February 15, 2012 I could never exercise at home. Unless it was like yoga or meditation. Otherwise, I'd never exercise, and I don't even have the equipment, anyway. Plus, it's kind of interesting to look at muscular men, especially if I fancy some Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EgoJoe Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Never for a date. I've been pursued for a relationship. I've been propositioned four times in my life though. I didn't "get" it for two of 'em and I banged the other two. All of these Women threw themselves at me (the hookup ones) but I've never had one just "express" interest randomly, the one who pursued me was my Ex, she did it twice and we had been talking for the longest time etc. I was tentative every time but once because I remembered (when I was sober) something my Mother told me as a child when I started High School in a new state. "Don't be friends with the first person who approaches you. They may not have any friends for a reason or they could be trying to haze you." I took that and applied it to a female psychology type deal and this is a very misogynist thought but it doesn't come from a malicious place: Unless I've done something to impress this chick, why doesn't she have other suitors, FWBs etc. knocking at her door so much that I don't even have to put in any effort? Now, as far as a guy at the gym, just tell him, "Hey, I want to get to know you. Drinks on me?" He will go and you will find out the truth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorshammer Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I could never exercise at home. Unless it was like yoga or meditation. Otherwise, I'd never exercise, and I don't even have the equipment, anyway. Plus, it's kind of interesting to look at muscular men, especially if I fancy some I prefer in my room. I can play any music, work out shirtless, grunt, yell, make funny faces when i lift heavy- flex in the mirror like a "bro", rush in for carbs when my energy is down, have my shake ready immediately, and take a quick shower right after the last rep, and best of all.... no, "aye bro, got any tips for xxx?" But, i always caught women peeking at dudes, and even the gay-men. I know some women are uncomfortable heading to the weight-room because men always creep around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 .....I ran and hid in the restroom (can't believe I'm admitting this... >_ I've also been approached at the gym (ran away then too) lol! It's so funny that here on ENA we read so many threads where men wish women would approach them more, and here you are, having had it happen twice and both times you run away, lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wsim Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 No... never been hit on or approached/asked out on a date. The only girl that even agreed to go past a first date basically threw herself onto me, so I didn't have to do anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WhenWillILove Posted February 16, 2012 Author Share Posted February 16, 2012 I prefer in my room. I can play any music, work out shirtless, grunt, yell, make funny faces when i lift heavy- flex in the mirror like a "bro", rush in for carbs when my energy is down, have my shake ready immediately, and take a quick shower right after the last rep, and best of all.... no, "aye bro, got any tips for xxx?" But, i always caught women peeking at dudes, and even the gay-men. I know some women are uncomfortable heading to the weight-room because men always creep around. Yes, most women don't even touch that area. Men have been known to do really awkward things like stare, stare, staaaareee. But it's almost always the less attractive ones. For some odd reason, the young and attractive never give women that satisfaction. Haha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickydoodle Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I have often had to ask men to help me load my weights. Most dont offer tho' unless a routine develops and we are there again the same time, same place they will ask. I think next fitness bout will be home gym for me 'cos I hate when men work in pairs and you have to wait until BOTH finish their reps before using the equipment. And if my sequence is disturbed it mucks me around. I would interpret it as courtesy if a man offered but it depends. You would have to observe if he extends such courtesy to other women before assuming anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raize Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Kinda. On two separate occasions. Both a very long time ago! When I was 14, a friend-of-a-friend-of-a-friend took a fancy to me, so she got our mutual friend to ask me out. I didn't know her at all and she wasn't pretty to me at all, so I said no. When I was 17, one day I dropped into the store I used to work at (and had left weeks before). I was having a good chat to one of my old workmates who was on shift. As I was leaving she said "We'll have to keep in touch and hang out sometime!" Maybe it was just as friends. Anyways I agreed that we should but never took her up on the offer. Cute as she was, I was head-over-heels for another girl who worked there who was very pretty and always very giggly and chatty with me. Problem is, I never asked that girl out, I was hoping she would ask me out! :shame: As for throughout my twenties I simply have not surrounded myself in environs of single women enough to get any more such prospects... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonny15 Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I've never had it happen and I assume most men haven't either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 It's so funny that here on ENA we read so many threads where men wish women would approach them more, and here you are, having had it happen twice and both times you run away, lol. It's not that I don't want women to approach me; it's just that whenever it happens it happens so fast that it kicks my anxiety into gear and I go into flight or fight mode. I guess saying I'm one of the shy ones is a bit of an understatement... Overall, I don't know a single guy that wouldn't want to be approached by a woman so I would highly encourage any woman on ENA to go after what she wants. I'm just simply a guy that has really poor conversational skills when put on the spot like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SometimesShy Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Women have only hit on me at parties and group events. Never at the gym. Never on the subway. Never buying groceries. Never at a club. I get endless staring from women almost every day, but it always leads nowhere. I don't approach, and they don't approach, so nothing every happens. Can be very frustrating sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonny15 Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 It's so funny that here on ENA we read so many threads where men wish women would approach them more, and here you are, having had it happen twice and both times you run away, lol. Just because one guys acts that way doesn't mean the rest do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonny15 Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 It's not that I don't want women to approach me; it's just that whenever it happens it happens so fast that it kicks my anxiety into gear and I go into flight or fight mode. I guess saying I'm one of the shy ones is a bit of an understatement... Overall, I don't know a single guy that wouldn't want to be approached by a woman so I would highly encourage any woman on ENA to go after what she wants. I'm just simply a guy that has really poor conversational skills when put on the spot like that. It has to be atleast a little nerve racking to have a woman approach you that way, but you just have to bite your tongue and go with it. As socially weird as I can be, I really doubt i'd run if a woman asked me out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ApocalypseDreams Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Been hit on a few times by randoms at a pub or bar, aquaintances or workmates. Never outright been asked on a date but rather they made their interest known to me. Rejected most of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iwishiknew Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I never got approaced before by a girl. Back in Highschool for turnabout I was also never approached. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JonasWaingaro Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Yes, I have had women come right up to me and ask me out on date. It's interesting. To be honest the dynamic ends up being off after that. I know I know, but it's true. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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