DeepestBlue Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I guess I am looking for some advice about the right time and way to make my intentions more apparent, in a more concrete way than "it's depends", or "when the moment is right". I'll try to keep it pretty simple: I met this guy at a club. Afterward, a bunch of us ended up grabbing a late night meal together, and he and I chatted a fair bit. We had some similar interests and he seemed really nice and genuine. He kind of suggested getting my number but it never happened. I get the feeling he's a little shy and there was a lot going on at once. A week went by. I know he doesn't go to the clubs much, but he had made it seem like he would be there the next week; when he didn't wind up being there, I felt kind of disappointed. I didn't want to let the possibility of a good connection go, so I stopped by his work and dropped my number off. He pretty much contacted me that same day when he got to work. I asked him if he'd like to grab coffee and left the day open. He picked the very next day, which was also Valentines. So we met up and I'd say things went really well. We grabbed food and just started chatting. I suggested we go to a cafe after, and we got so lost in conversation when I checked the time it was 6:40 and I missed this thing I had to go to at 4:30. So we just ended up chatting until 10:30 when he headed home. We share a lot of similar values and our conversation flows so smoothly. Before he left he suggested making plans again for this week. And then texted me right after saying he had a great time and thanking me. I feel like he's given a lot of indication that he's interested, with contacting me right away, wanting to meet up the very next day, us spending 7 and a half hours together chatting, and then him wanting to make plans the very same week. At the same time, I feel like we're both a bit shy, and I don't ever see him making the first move if he's actually interested in me. And I don't want things to go too long and get pigeon-holed as "just a friend". We already have plans for this weekend to go to this Japanese restaurant that was his suggestion. So what I'm wondering is what is the best way to gauge his interest in things being more than just friendship, and what is the best way to show I am interested? Would it be better to just talk to him about it outright, or are there certain subtler things I should do, or should I just try to kiss him, and if so at what point? Link to comment
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