bananashake Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 When people tell you not to worry, that Karma will get him/her who did you dirty, do you ever wonder what YOU did to deserve the treatment you received?? That maybe Karma getting u back for something?? Link to comment
Batya33 Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I don't think karma always happens so I don't see it as a foolproof way of analyzing things. I do look for balance in life - so that if something happens to me that is unfair I do try to think about whether-even unintentionally -I've acted similarly in the past - doesn't hurt to learn a lesson if that's true (not because I feel punished just because it lets you see what it feels like the other way). Link to comment
Gerda Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 When people tell you not to worry, that Karma will get him/her who did you dirty, do you ever wonder what YOU did to deserve the treatment you received?? That maybe Karma getting u back for something??Yes yes YES. In fact, I'm sometimes certain of it. I know I did bad things in my past, hurt people, and this experience HAS made me feel more compassion for others, for people in unrequited love. I have often thought of people I hurt when I was hurting. I do think this pain has made me a better person--I'm much less likely to mess with a person's emotions now that I've had mine messed with so badly. Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 It's not kharma --- it's life. It hands you lessons -- and you either learn and grow from them, and they make you a better person, or you don't. And in my experience, if you don't grow or learn -- somehow that lesson comes back in a slightly different shape and format, and you get a 2nd or 3rd chance to try again. And when you do grow --- things are great for a while, and then something else happens. A new lesson. Because isn't that why we are all here? To learn? Link to comment
lanaa Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Been thinking a lot about this,and i have no idea why this happened to me,especially as before him i had a really hard breakup,so 2 times in a row.I believe in God and justice but i find it hard to find any explanation to this,why me,why this? Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Been thinking a lot about this,and i have no idea why this happened to me,especially as before him i had a really hard breakup,so 2 times in a row.I believe in God and justice but i find it hard to find any explanation to this,why me,why this? Look to see if there are similarities in the men you are attracted to, if the "path" of the relationships have been similar. And look at you own behavior w/in the relationship. Sometimes w/ 20/20 hindsight, we can see patterns -- and if you can see them, you can adjust them. Link to comment
lanaa Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Look to see if there are similarities in the men you are attracted to, if the "path" of the relationships have been similar. And look at you own behavior w/in the relationship. Sometimes w/ 20/20 hindsight, we can see patterns -- and if you can see them, you can adjust them. they are total opposites,first ex and second ex.From the first ex i learned a lesson,i really built a wall around my heart and it took my new ex much time to gain my attention and confidence,and all the time i tried to keep it safe so i don't end up hurt.And then it happens..what i feared most and what i tried to avoid the best i could Link to comment
thelastsong Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Been thinking a lot about this,and i have no idea why this happened to me,especially as before him i had a really hard breakup,so 2 times in a row.I believe in God and justice but i find it hard to find any explanation to this,why me,why this? As far as that goes, my dad (who was once a minister) explained to me that although occasionally suffering is caused or exacerbated by sin, it's ultimately a part of the human condition. Jesus was perfect and sinless, yet He also suffered greatly in life. Reminding myself of this has really helped me. (Although I suppose if you're not Christian, it wouldn't do much for you.) Link to comment
FrenchFries Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 When people start spatting that karma crap, I think to myself, be careful - you haven't been perfect either. Everyone suffers at some point in time...it's just life. Link to comment
bulletproof Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I don't really think of it in terms of karma. More like, "what decisions have I made that brought me to this point?". I don't really believe in punishment by karma for unrelated incidents. There's usually a reason we find ourselves in the positions we are in. Link to comment
Gerda Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Hm, I think another way to put it would be, do you believe in justice? Because aren't justice and karma sort of the same thing? I don't believe in "karma" exactly, because I'm not Buddhist, but I do believe in justice, and I do believe in a just God who is not inclined to let somebody hurt one of his children without avenging them (Romans 12:19, Luke 18:1-8.) So I don't think that emotional pain is always "karma" (or God's justice), but in my case I have often thought it was, because when I experienced certain pains it brought to my mind when I had done similar things to others, and I was convicted of my guilt and determined not to do the same thing again. Some people do not have to learn to do right by having wrong done to them, but it seems to have been an effective way for me to learn. I do think people suffer without an apparent cause as well. I've even go so far as to wonder if karma is retroactive, meaning am I paying today for mistakes I'm destined to make in the future. But...that's a little far out there, even for me. Link to comment
dumPI Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 To me neither karma nor God's justice pointed to a person and his behavior. I would say it's a matter of your way of thinking > your actions/behavior > your consequences/results. If you are inmature > go dating people around & dumping good ones > you'll end up dating jerks Link to comment
Love145 Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Nope. What happened to the dumpee is that the relation came to an end as it happens many times and someone has to get hurt. The way you handle the break up, how you treat the dumpee, is what you pay for later on because sooner or later most people regret losing what they used to have. Specially if that person is now with someone else. Link to comment
MissieP Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I think Karma for the most part is hogwash. I have seen some cases where odd things happen and you think they totally deserved that one but in my case I am still praying for Karma to kick my ex right where it hits him but it hasn't happened so I still believe for the most part Karma is hogwash or perhaps I am just not seeing it yet which is quite irritating because my ex deserves karma and I am not saying that to be bitter but he deserves it. Link to comment
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