johny77 Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 Before i start i would i know all of it may sound trivial and silly but i cant help the way i feel. I have known this girl for almost 6 years now but only started going out with her in the last 6 months. I know there is love there but for some reason i am feeling very insecure. The other night i noticed there she the movies she downloads. They seem to be all rated R but by this i dont mean actual porn movies but movies such as Poison Ivy, two moon junction, wild orchid etc. I kow they arent porn movies but it does worry me a little that they seem to be the racy type with sex scenes etc. The other day she was at home sick and i asked her just in general conversation what she had bee doing. She said not much. When i went over i noticed her laptop was on her bed and for some reason i got a strange feeling. Anyway she said she had tried to download poison ivy 2. I really dont know why its getting to me i really dont as it must sound very silly an petty to others but i really cant help it. I now find myself worrying about whether she watches porn and i guess with that the underlying thoughts that maybe she might be a little too much for me and i wont be able to keep her happy. Some thoughts would be nice and for the record feeling insecure like this really sucks and gets me down big time. I wish i could speak to someone about i but its embarassing and i really dont want to speak to friends about her in that way. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 What about racy movies upset you? Watching racy movies - and porn - is a very natural thing that many women (and men) do. Link to comment
BlueEagle Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I don't think you should feel embarrassed about this. Maybe she is getting ideas from the steamy scenes in those movies for you and her? Have you thought about gently talking to her about it in a non-accusatory/nonjudgmental way? I don't honestly think she's preferring to watch those R-rated movies with some steamy scenes over being with you. But, keep the lines of communication open and see where she is coming from. Remember, assumptions can be fatal to a relationship, and assumptions are a product of poor communication, or no communication. Broach the topic with her in a curious way and see how she responds. I think you just might be pleasantly surprised to find that your worries will be allayed by her honesty and her innocuous intentions. Link to comment
johny77 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Share Posted February 15, 2012 Thanks Blue eagle Whilst i would like to broach the situation i feel like it would bring my insecurities to the fore and perhaps make me look like an insecure guy. But i guess thats the truth! Link to comment
im_the_undead Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 i know how you feel......trust me.............but there's really nothing one can do about it at least she's not watching porn ! but if this is as racy as it gets, then be happy that's a good thing. and be confident, don't let it get to ya Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 i know how you feel......trust me.............but there's really nothing one can do about it at least she's not watching porn why would it make any difference if she was watching porn ? you need to ask yourself why you feel like this op ? and if it was hard core porn ..so what... you don't have to feel any shame for feeling insecure about anything ..but you do have to work out for yourself why this is such a big deal to you . Link to comment
johny77 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Share Posted February 15, 2012 Thanks guys it has been good to get some perspective. I know it sounds petty but i must say it has helped me today just reading your responses. I would love to be able to chat to someone or send someone some emails from time to time. Speaking to strangers and saying whats on my mind without fear of being judged or ridiculed has been quite liberating. If anyone is up for exchanging email addresses and able to chat or allow me to email them every so often it would be nice. Unless this site allows for private messages and someone is willing to help me out? Link to comment
eskimobobseal Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 there's no problem here, at least she isn't watching porn. Link to comment
im_the_undead Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 why would it make any difference if she was watching porn ? you need to ask yourself why you feel like this op ? and if it was hard core porn ..so what... you don't have to feel any shame for feeling insecure about anything ..but you do have to work out for yourself why this is such a big deal to you . because porn is porn. movies are censored and leave things to the imagination. Link to comment
im_the_undead Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 there's no problem here, at least she isn't watching porn. that's what i'm sayin' Link to comment
Autumnleaves Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 You guys have only been dating for a short time, I really think you should just lighten up a bit and enjoy what you both have together. So she likes to watch some erotic movies unless it becomes a serious problem where she spends more time watching them than being with you, I really wouldn't worry. Why not offer to join her one night & watch one together. Link to comment
mrjoeblow78 Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Are you kidding me? Your girlfriend sounds awesome! What's her number? Just kidding, I've been drinking a little. Seriously though, you got nothing to worry about. Take a step back and think about what you're getting worked up about. You're talking about some risque movies. I say join her in her interests and have a fun time doing it. Congrats man! Link to comment
Tom1990 Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Why not offer to join her one night & watch one together. This sounds like an awesome idea. Link to comment
johny77 Posted February 19, 2012 Author Share Posted February 19, 2012 Thanks guys I think you are right....why am i getting worked up about? maybe an insecure little freak lol.....i have to work on it and i guess the best way is to chat with people. I would rather not involve her. If i can get over it without freaking out and having a go at her it would be the best way. In all honesty i am feeling better about it. I just have to keep working at it. Thank you all Link to comment
Gerda Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Is it just me or are the movies you mentioned not merely "risque," but of the girl-girl risque variety? Are you worried she is interested in females? Link to comment
johny77 Posted February 20, 2012 Author Share Posted February 20, 2012 No Gerda im quite certain she is not into women. I guess its just an insecurity that im not good enough i guess Link to comment
Miss Firecracker Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I don't see the problem. She's an adult and watches adult rated movies. Link to comment
johny77 Posted February 20, 2012 Author Share Posted February 20, 2012 exactly miss firecracker lol....thats what i need to hear.....easier said than done but its the way i feel and its really silly to allow it to affect me Link to comment
Miss Firecracker Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 exactly miss firecracker lol....thats what i need to hear.....easier said than done but its the way i feel and its really silly to allow it to affect me Many years ago, I had a dream about a star in a movie I watched, and the dream was pretty hot. That wasn't even a racy movie. But that dream didn't have any impact on my relationship at all. It's all just dream stuff...means absolutely nothing! Link to comment
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