Pursuing a Romantic Interest

[Penseur]

So, after nearly 9 months of grieving and heartache, I find that new woman has entered into my thoughts, displacing many of the thoughts of the relationship of yore. I welcome this change, for my mental well-being desperately was in need of respite from the woes of lost love. I find that I am healing at an extraordinary rate, after a very rough and slow first five or six months.

 

The point of this thread is to inquire as to at which pace is best to proceed with a woman in whom I have a romantic interest. The signs thus far point that she is possibly open to such a pursuit, based on our conversations, her interest level, our texting, and such forth. No, I am not certain she is interested, but I want to probe the possibility that she may be. I am certain that, at the minimum, she is interested in friendship.

 

One common theme in my life is that I have either come on too strong, or have been too aloof and seemingly uninterested. So with a potential romantic partner in the very early stages, what is the proper course of conduct to pursue a courtship? Do I let things flow naturally, and see where the developments take me? Do I take initiative and lay out proposals, e.g., ask to coffee, social events, etc.? I will say she has already agreed to go to a performing arts function with me in about a month.

 

I know there are no concrete rules to courtship, but any insight into experiences and advice is greatly appreciated. Because I am terribly inexperienced in such affairs.

[mines]

Hi....I'm really happy that you've met someone new

 

I am not sure I should offer advice, after all, I'm now permanently single, a few failed relationships under my belt.

 

But I will say, that as a woman, what I would want with any man I"m interested in, is for him to go with a natural flow. Aloof, that doesn't work for me. Pisses me off, makes me lose interest. I like men who aren't afraid to show they're interested. I don't like games, I go for authenticity.

 

This is only one woman's opinion.

 

I really wish you the best

[The_Seeker]

So, after nearly 9 months of grieving and heartache,

 

Sounds like my boyfriend's history. LOL

 

I find that new woman has entered into my thoughts, displacing many of the thoughts of the relationship of yore.

 

 

oOooooooOoOoo!

 

 

 

I welcome this change,

 

 

Gotta love change!

 

for my mental well-being desperately was in need of respite from the woes of lost love. I find that I am healing at an extraordinary rate, after a very rough and slow first five or six months.

 

Finally, someone on the post is moving forward! Another one is on the board!

 

The point of this thread is to inquire as to at which pace is best to proceed with a woman in whom I have a romantic interest.

 

Too early to tell. Do get to know her.

 

 

The signs thus far point that she is possibly open to such a pursuit, based on our conversations, her interest level, our texting, and such forth.

 

Still getting to know each other. Good.

 

No, I am not certain she is interested, but I want to probe the possibility that she may be. I am certain that, at the minimum, she is interested in friendship.

 

Okay...hopeful. Optimistic. Be yourself. Make sure you have no expectations but to have fun with your life.

 

EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED, my friend!

 

 

One common theme in my life is that I have either come on too strong, or have been too aloof and seemingly uninterested. So with a potential romantic partner in the very early stages,

 

Sounds like my boyfriend.

 

LOL how adorable

 

 

what is the proper course of conduct to pursue a courtship? Do I let things flow naturally, and see where the developments take me? Do I take initiative and lay out proposals, e.g., ask to coffee, social events, etc.? I will say she has already agreed to go to a performing arts function with me in about a month.

 

1.) RESPECT. Meaning don't force kiss/sex/social security number/banking accounting number her.

 

2.) Set date, time, and place.

 

3.) Be yourself. Don't pull the toilet stuff by not letting her know you had a great time with her. Don't be afraid to ask about having a date next time or whatever. If you know what you want and need and not into playing games, then be straight forward.

 

4.) Have FUN! Talk!

 

I know there are no concrete rules to courtship, but any insight into experiences and advice is greatly appreciated. Because I am terribly inexperienced in such affairs.

 

There is always a rule when it comes to courtship. That is RESPECT and Appreciation.

 

You are learning about each other, so take the time to learn about each other.

 

Good luck!