WhiteLotus Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Please, somebody tell me if I'm overreacting to this, because I hope I am. But I am in shock over a text my bf just sent me. It started out by him telling me that his best friend of many years called to say that he was probably going to move at the end of the semester. I sympathized with him and asked where the friend was moving to. My bf said that his friend just wanted to get out of their hometown and wasn't sure where he'd go, but he had asked my bf to come with him and be his roommate. My bf did mention that maybe they could move to the city I live in. I asked him what would happen if his friend decided to move to a different state, or a different place in this state that is even further away than the two hour drive we already have to deal with, would he still go? His reply was "I honestly have no idea, I don't think so. But I don't know I will have to think about it." I was instantly hurt because you can read in my previous threads that we've been slowly working towards living in the same city and eventually living together, and now he says this. I know he is really close to this friend (I have a previous thread regarding the two of them having sleepovers) but would he put his friendship ahead of our relationship? Two days ago he told me, without me even asking, that he wants to marry me someday. He said he's not ready yet, but he does want to. I completely agreed with him, and told him I'm not ready yet either. So I can't imagine that fear of commitment would cause this strange turn of events considering that we both agreed that we're on the same page regarding readiness or lack thereof. I'm just so hurt that he is dragging his feet on moving to my city just long enough for me to finish school, and said that even if he did move to my city it would be at least a year before he could do so, and now he's talking about moving with the bestie within a few months! I mean, what the hell? I don't know what to say in response to him, I haven't sent a text back yet. I'm sure by the time I get replies to this I'll have responded to him, but I had to get this out there for other people to see. Link to comment
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