texted me she misses me

[johnLA]

About 3 weeks ago my ex and I had a somewhat mutual breakup because the timing wasn't right for her (except that I asked for her back a day later and she denied me). We have tried to remain friends and some days are fine, other days she flirts with me and bumps me as we are walking, and other days she acts as if I am non existent (we see each other 5 times a week due to college). I tried to go NC (except saying hi in class) a week ago because it was too confusing for me. She kept texting me a couple times a day though and I always responded nicely. Last Friday I FINALLY felt like life was good without her. Then last night as I was texting her about school she told me she missed me. I didn't know how to respond so I just said we will always be friends. Now I am confused again. She knows that I wanted us to work, so I keep asking myself does she want me back but is afraid to ask or is she just torturing me? I even heard she gave a guy her number at the bar last Friday night (which bugged me) though never responded when he texted her. What do I do? She is giving me hope that we can be together which just sets me back to square 1 in the healing process.

[dahlia1284]

Hi John,

 

Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants and to be honest, it sounds like she is holding onto you and keeping you as a safety net. If a girl liked you and knew she wanted to be with you she would be with you. She wouldn't play games and go back and forth to confuse you. You should ask yourself what do you want from this? If you are ok with how things are now, then go with it. But If you want more, than you have to tell her that it's either all or nothing with you. Hope that helps!

[pl3asehelp]

You nailed it when you said she's just giving you hope which sets you back. You've been clear that you want to get back together and she's been clear that she doesn't. The relationship you two have right now isn't friendship, it's simply a guy pining for a girl he has feelings for (you) and a girl enjoying the attention of any man she chooses (your ex gf) while committing to none. Up to you if you want to continue on that way, but it's definitely not good for you if you with to move on or get her back.

[duke nukem]

Hi John,

 

Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants and to be honest, it sounds like she is holding onto you and keeping you as a safety net. If a girl liked you and knew she wanted to be with you she would be with you. She wouldn't play games and go back and forth to confuse you. You should ask yourself what do you want from this? If you are ok with how things are now, then go with it. But If you want more, than you have to tell her that it's either all or nothing with you. Hope that helps!

 

I don't know if that's completely true. I feel like there could still be something with my ex, but my faults combined with other things just broke her down. Maybe I'm wrong, but I sure hope not.