He texted me on Valentine's Day.

[citylove]

It's been six months since I was dumped by my boyfriend of three years. If you want to read the whole story, click on my username and find some of my other forum posts-- it's been a pretty up and down road, with more downs than ups. Anyway, we hadn't spoken since December. I've been feeling horribly depressed again for the past few days because I heard that he is "moving on" and apparently there are other girl(s) involved... I don't know details, but it's still so hard to stomach when I am still missing him and loving him.

 

Anyway, he decides to text me this morning. Here's what he said: "Hey. For what it's worth, i hope you have a nice day today. I know it's hard but don't use it as an excuse to feel bad about yourself. I'm sorry about all the negativity between us lately. I've been acting like a total a**. I want you to be happy. And to let you know that we don't have to be complete strangers anymore."

 

I couldn't resist responding. I basically told him that I appreciate his sentiment, but he has no idea just how much pain I've been in and what this has been like for me. He told me that it's not easy being on the other end either, but that he promised he would be kind to me from here on out. I mean, it's nice to hear that, but it still doesn't bring him back to me. He also said that he would like to meet up with me and talk. I think it's a good idea, despite what others might advise... there are so many complications and confusions and painful questions that I would like to have answered. But now I'm just feeling terrible. It was like he was right there in my hands-- his name showed up on my phone, which I never thought would happen again. He still cares about me... but not in the way I'd like him to. I miss him.

 

Thanks for letting me vent. I hope all of you are finding ways to be peaceful on this silly holiday.

[sandrawg]

Awww...{hugs} That's gotta be hard. I'd tread cautiously, tho. 6 months is a long time of NC to have someone just pop back into your life on Valentine's Day.

[EgoJoe]

Believe it or not, this is a good thing. It doesn't look like he is all about Recon but moreso burying the hatchet and despite some selfish pandering he admits to being less than savory. If/when you meet up with him repeat after me, "This is for peace and anything else will not happen immediately."

 

Keep us updated.

[Sweetkisses22]

You shouldnt have told him how miserable youve been. Its just going to make you look like your not trying to move on while he is. That text he sent you was not for any type of reconciliation if thats what your hoping. I think hes just letting you know hes over you.

[rebellefleur]

I hate to be the cloud that comes hovering over you, but just please be careful and i only say thing because a text that was similar to this around christmas was what sent me through a pretty painful roller coaster ride. I was not over him by any means, i still loved him with my whole heart, and that text gave me so much false hope. Just keep in mind that the text most likely will not and has no intention of dealing with reconciliation- it's just a text to clear up the tension and ease his guilt/ make things friendly between you two.

 

I made the mistake of taking a text like that and hoping for the best, that reconciliation would at least be an option, that maybe we could take steps. I even remember how we met up and he told me how much he missed me and how flirty and cute he was around me, like he was falling in love all over again. I fell flat on my face, hard. He had no intention of giving me what i wanted and in the end i was left just as broken as before.

 

I'm just asking you to please be gentle with yourself and to be careful. It doesn't sound like you're healed and i know how hopeful those messages can truly feel.

[citylove]

I really don't have any hope of reconciliation at this point. I don't know what I want, honestly. Ugh.