Best Friend involved in affair... Mom thinks he will marry her someday...

[FatedLove]

Hi all...

 

Okay, so I am going to share something personal with complete strangers about something thats not even myself...

 

my best friend is in an affair with a married guy thats lasted 8 years....

 

pretty long time for a normal affair...

 

everyone thinks she should dump him and move on and that she deserves better, but my mom has actually said she thinks he might leave his wife and marry her someday...

 

im completely bewildered by this and her line of thinking...

 

a little info on myself as well... Ive been friends with a guy for 2 years who ive had a crush on for 2 years who Ive admitted feelings for and hes turned me down and my mom thinks I should remain friends with him and just not let it get to me....

 

or at least she said that thats what she would do...

 

so I guess basically what Im saying is...

 

WHAT is UP with my mom?!!

 

LOL

[chitown9]

I don't think it is a good idea to ask your mom for her opinions. In all due respect, her ideas seem strange...

[lanaa]

many women think so,and many women do win the guy ,but it does not happen often and it hurts as hell(i am talking about your case) when it comes to your friend,i doubt he will leave his wife,if she ever forces him to choose probably he will choose his wife

[annie24]

I think you shouldn't take love advice from your mother!!

 

As the saying goes, "A man who marries his mistress has created a job opening."

[Gracelove]

Hey There!

 

If your friend has been with this man for 8 years, I doubt she'll leave. Also if he hasn't left his wife by now, I doubt he will.

 

Mothers can be funny sometimes. Everyone thinks of things differently.

 

In regards to your friend, do you enjoy your friendship despite him turning you down? If so, this may be why your mother is suggesting you remain friends with him. If he seems to make you happy, she probably sees no reason for your friendship to end. She probably thinks you'll eventually just fall for someone else.

[annie24]

On another note - how do you feel that your best friend is involved in an affair? Doesn't it make you lose respect for her, or wonder if she'd try to steal your man too? Don't you wonder about her morals?

[FatedLove]

To everyone... and to annie24...

 

yes, I have wondered that before and she even messaged my friend (that I like) without my permission... in fact I specifically asked her not to.

 

Im not really a judgmental type of person, I love everyone, their faults and all... when I first got to know her, it bugged me, but the longer I know her I just love her as my best friend. I wish shed find better for herself... I think she has really low self esteem... one would have to to stay with a man who cheats.

 

Gracelove, no... I dont enjoy our friendship. Its put a strain on it, me liking him and him not liking me back. I read into everything he says and does... on top of that, hes been with girls and dumped them after 3 weeks...

 

He has his own issues... while I enjoy talking to him and I enjoy the attention that he gives me, I dont necessarily think its healthy to continue.

[pl3asehelp]

There would not be anything wrong with or judgmental about not wanting to keep company with cheaters. Everyone should have lines that can't be crossed otherwise you don't really have any morals or principles yourself.

[FatedLove]

I disagree. I do not judge her and I love her as a friend. What she does in her personal relationships is her business.