mixxturey Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Okay, I wanted to come here and get some thoughts and advice. Thanks. So I been with my girlfriend for a while and we have talked a lot about marriage and all of that stuff. I planning on proposing to her soon, she really has all of the qualities that would be great in a wife, and I have done a lot of stuff to prepare myself to be a husband and father. I just got my PhD and am in my first year as a professor and she is graduate student. We met in a church on our campus when we were undergrads and we both still attend; many of our other friends still attend the church as well, many of whom are married with kids now, and there also are new college students who have come in the last few years. As I said, I have been talking with my pastor and many of my married friends about being a great husband and father and that is where I am at, really maturing into that. Over the years, all of us would hang out after church but obviously as time has gone on and with many of the people getting married and having kids, the main group of people who hang out now are undergrads around 19 and 20. My girlfriend is a real people person and likes to hang out so some of the times she, who is 31, will want to hang out with the 19 and 20 year olds. And I have to admit that something that strikes me as odd is that in those times she will act as though the 19 and 20 year olds are her peers even though she is 31. I do have younger friends but it is clear I am an older brother figure and such to them while my girlfriend acts like these guys are peers. To use an example she has known her best friend, who is now married with kids and doesn't even hang out afterwards, for 21 years so they have known each other longer than the 19 and 20 year olds have even been alive. As I said, I love her (she is really wonderful and I am thankful and blessed to have her in my life much less soon to be likely moving into a marriage with her) and am going to propose to her but seeing as how I see myself as husband and father within a year or so is the fact that she is 31 and considers 19 and 20 year olds peers a red flag? (And to be clear she is not perfect but this is the only 'issue' I have with her.) Thoughts on anything I said? And what would you do in my shoes? Thanks very much Link to comment
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