yelwed Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 My ex and I broke up about 12 months ago. I was the one to end it as we just weren't getting along. At the time we had a lot on our plates with work, we lived so far away from each other and other things so trying to work on our relationship was just wasn't the right time. Over the time we stayed LC but at one stage we didn't even chat for 6 months. At Christmas time we started chatting again. After some chatting I told him how I felt and that I would like to give us another chance. He told me he couldn't, he just wanted to be friends (there is no-one else). It wasn't what I wanted to hear. He told me he didn't know if I would end it again and he doesn't want to do that but at the time we broke up, I thought he understood why I ended it, he wasn't happy at the time as he had so much going on, I felt like I was tieing him down. He lives 2.5 hours away from me. I was in the area last Friday so I thought I would just send a message to him to see if he wanted to catch up which he agreed. I went to his place, had dinner and left the next morning and everything was fine, it was really good in fact. It felt like I have never left, it felt so comfortable. The next day I got a text message saying I left somethig behind. He told me that is a good thing as it meant I have to visit him again soon. I didn't read into it too much as I didn't want to get my hopes up. I don't know what to do now. I so want to be with this guy but it is a horrible feeling knowing that I can't have him. I have been on dates on the past 3-4 months but when I go out with these guys, all I think about is him. I thought I was doing the right thing at the time. I thought if I gave him some space and let him get done what he needed to get done, when we got back together things would be so much better but it backfired on me. I thought he understood at the time too what I was trying to do. I regret it every day, I just thought at the time I was doing the right thing. Do I just leave this guy alone and move on with my life. Do I just stay LC and hope he changes in mind in time and hope his feelings change? I don't want to tell him again how I feel as I think that will just push him away. As it Valentine's Day, is it ok to send a message wishing him a Happy Valentines Day? I look forward to anyone's advice please. Thanks Link to comment
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