leon1311 Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Today I saw a picture of my ex on facebook and I suddenly realised that I don't love her anymore, I looked at that picture for about 15 minutes, then I looked other pictures of her just to see if I would felt anything and I didn't felt anything similar to love or attraction. 3 months have passed from BU, is it normal to look at her pictures and to feel nothing similar to love??? Is it possible that I was lonely after she broke up, and that I was scared of meeting new girls? I didn't look at other girls at all, I just saw my ex in every girl and now I began to look new girls and they are so attractive again, why is this happening all of the sudden? I'm not so good at meeting new girls, what to do if I see someone who I like? How to approach new girls, should I just intruduce myself and ask for her name, what is the normal thing to do when I like someone and like to take her on a date? And can I meet girls in a library because I don't go to night clubs so often? If someone can answer me this I would be so thankful. Hm... There is one more strange emotion that I feel last 2 days, I actually feel thankful to my ex because I learned some important lessons, I was so unhappy and anxious with her. I wasn't myself, I acted the way she would like, and I didn't do things what I wanted to do, I was really depressed and I was miserable with myself and my life. That was one of the reasons why she left me. When you love someone you give your best to help that other person. She left me when things for me were the hardest. But when she left I was on my own and I had a lot of time to think about myself and my life. Now I am doing what I want, I am who I want to be and I don't really bother what she and others think of me. I am no longer looking for her and their approval. And I know that I will be a better boyfriend when I meet someone new. I still miss her, but not so hard as before, I think I miss her because I had a habit to see her and talk to her on the phone. I don't know if I am healed or not. This rolercoasters of emotions are getting more intense but shorter, and after the bad feelings pass, I feel better and better every time. I would like to send her a messagge or a letter to thank her for opening my eyes. I would like to wright her about what she put me trough, thank her for making me stronger and happier because of that, and I would like sincerely wish her luck and a happy life. I don't care if she is going to read it or reply on it, I just think that I need to do that so I can finally go on with my life and to find someone new some day. Is it ok if I send her this letter? Is it normal to actually feel thankful to somebody who made you hurt so much but in the same time taught you a lesson? I have so much questions, every answer will be so helpful for me. Link to comment
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