chillout Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Hey People, Me and my girlfriend have been together for over a year now and the other day something really got me down. She asked me if I was going to our college prom and I said , 'Yeah i'll be going if you're able to come'. Then she replied, ' I wouldn't go with you'. I was really shocked and asked why. She said that if she goes she'll go with her girl mates as going with me isn't a 'good look'. I was pretty upset about this and I said to her that, we've been going out for a year and we won't be going to prom together. Then I said to her I won't be going prom and according to her i'm taking this personally. She said that she's used to being 'discreet' about her relationships. Am i being unreasonable asking her to go prom with me? It'll be our last time in the college and I thought we should go together. What do you guys think? Link to comment
superfan Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Discreet? Are you two from warring rival families or something? If not, then 'discreet' sounds to me like code for 'I want to go to check out my other options and don't want you holding me back'..... Major red flag IMO.... Link to comment
DN Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 That would be a deal-breaker for me. Is she ashamed to be seen with you? Apparently so - for you posted this in a previous thread: I have real strong feelings towards her too and whats killing me IS: For the past maybe few weeks , whenever we are alone (we haven't told people about our relationship - because of rumours , people asking and all that bull) , she doesn't even hug me , kiss me or anything. I just walk her to her bus stop , as i did before but before she would hug or kiss me. The other day , I gave her a hug - it felt like a REALLY weak hug. Link to comment
chillout Posted February 12, 2012 Author Share Posted February 12, 2012 Discreet? Are you two from warring rival families or something? If not, then 'discreet' sounds to me like code for 'I want to go to check out my other options and don't want you holding me back'..... Major red flag IMO.... Her dad is super-strict. So she said that when pictures will be taken it's 'risky' for her. @DN: I asked her that because I was pretty annoyed. And she said she has no idea what im talking about Link to comment
Furbys Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 All i can say is this isnt a relationship in my eyes. Link to comment
chillout Posted February 12, 2012 Author Share Posted February 12, 2012 @DN Starting to see it now @Furbys Feeling that too @tvnerdgirl We are both 18 Link to comment
EgoJoe Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 She is shopping for other dudes and waiting to let you go. Dump her. Don't explain, say this, "I'm done with you and you know why. Don't contact me, peace." Link to comment
chillout Posted February 12, 2012 Author Share Posted February 12, 2012 She is shopping for other dudes and waiting to let you go. Dump her. Don't explain, say this, "I'm done with you and you know why. Don't contact me, peace." that'll be tough to do with all our history and all Link to comment
GreenCupcake Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Why would you want to stay with a girl who doesn't want to be seen with you in public? Doesn't that bother you in general? Link to comment
chillout Posted February 12, 2012 Author Share Posted February 12, 2012 Why would you want to stay with a girl who doesn't want to be seen with you in public? Doesn't that bother you in general? She doesn't mind being with me in public. Just prefers no hugging and kissing. Link to comment
GreenCupcake Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 She doesn't mind being with me in public. Just prefers no hugging and kissing. ...or being seen with you at the prom. From my own experience and stories I've heard from others, when someone wants to be discreet about your relationship it means they don't take you seriously. Link to comment
chillout Posted February 12, 2012 Author Share Posted February 12, 2012 ...or being seen with you at the prom. From my own experience and stories I've heard from others, when someone wants to be discreet about your relationship it means they don't take you seriously. Strange thing is. Everyone knows about us two being together in the college. So i thought the discreet thing wasn't a problem .. obviously i was wrong Link to comment
GreenCupcake Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Strange thing is. Everyone knows about us two being together in the college. So i thought the discreet thing wasn't a problem .. obviously i was wrong It's a matter of putting two and two together. Everyone knows you two are going out, yet she doesn't want to go with you to the prom. Something is not right. Link to comment
EgoJoe Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Dude, you need to do this. She is so immature and you will thank yourself later. She is eventually going to dump you. Nip this in the butt NOW. Ignore everything she says after you do it. When you say "you know why" expect hell, do it in person and just roll your eyes at her no matter what she says and walk away. Link to comment
blueidealist24 Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 That is really weird. Discretion is for FWBs and FBs, not RELATIONSHIPS! I would honestly break up with her. Link to comment
Captain Obvious Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 I can see why with her strict dad she is like that. Imagine if your parents found out you were smoking at age 13, that is how she imagines her dad will react. Some parents just teach that such relationships are bad. However, by not confronting the problem itll never be solved, I say if shes worth it stick with her and get to the root of the problem. Link to comment
capilot Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Discreet? Are you two from warring rival families or something? I smiled. Chillout needs to change his handle to Montegue. Link to comment
chillout Posted February 18, 2012 Author Share Posted February 18, 2012 Thanks for your help guys. I'll be making a decision soon. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 I'm still trying to figure out this part: "we haven't told people about our relationship - because of rumours , people asking and all that bull)". WHY haven't you told anyone, and WHAT rumours? If you guys haven't told anyone, then no wonder she wants to be "descreet" and not be seen with you. What are we all missing here? Link to comment
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