connections Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Hi guys This is my first post here so apologies in advance if I've asked this question in the wrong section.. I just had a quick question regarding a new relationship I'm involved in: We're both 21 & have been together for only 4 months. He spends 2 weeks a month away for work & the other 2 at his home, round the corner from me. When he is home we do see each other a lot. I'm talking 6 evenings a week. It was both our faults for jumping in too quickly with one another, but we just enjoyed spending so much time with each other (the honeymoon stage?). However, he's been home this weekend (after being away for 2 weeks) & we've had a couple of birthday parties to go to. At each one he's paid literally no attention to me, focussing on his friends instead. I know it's really not that big a deal (& I know I sound very immature for wanting more attention...) But I looked at the other couples at these parties, the majority having been "together" for years & they're still paying a lot of attention to each other. Then I looked at us & though to myself "Wow, if he can't even give me some attention when we've only been together a few months, then surely in a year or so it will be so much worse?!?!" Although he had been away for two weeks previously, the only thing I could put it down to is perhaps we've spent so much time together the last 4 months, he's already starting to take me for granted. I don't know what to suggest now though. I don't want to mention anything for fear that he will see me as a needy immature child (maybe that is the case?)...but then I don't really want to pull away without giving a reason, as I'm sure those who have been on the receiving end of someone pulling away without reason can all agree it's not very nice. Or perhaps just accept that the honeymoon stage is over & he's simply not really the type of guy to give attention to his girlfriend when there's other things going on. Apologies for the long post & thank you in advance if you read this. xoxo Edit - I'd rather not play any "mind games" (E.g, not answering the phone for a couple of nights) as I feel this is unfair to him. Link to comment
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