playstheblues Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 I suffer from a lot of guilt about my relationship ending. My ex gave me a list of my faults i.e. not letting myself get caught up in the moment enough and listed the times i had not been in the moment etc etc. I really do beat myself up about these and understand that I do have my faults and that there are things that I could try to change about myself. I don't however have a list of his faults, of course I could probably make one, but I don't want to. We both did things that weren't ideal like letting the relationship get into a rut- but his faults don't seem to be at the forefront of my mind and I don't know whether this is because he broke up with me and I have him on a pedestal or I'm just more willing to realise that all humans have faults.I would have been willing to work through these issues with him, but he didn't want that. It's interesting to see the conflicting theories on here and so I'd like to ask: do you think that after time, you start to forget about the bad things, and remember the good things or you start to concentrate on the bad things more and think- thanks heavens I'm not in that relationship anymore? There seems to be conflicting views- but i would have thought out of 9 years, we also had lots of good times in our relationship but in the beginning of the breakup, he couldn't see or remember that. I'm not sure if he can now because we are in NC but just wonder whether time really does heal wounds I.e. make people remember situations fondly or cement the bad thoughts about the relationship? Link to comment
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