Vday gift for someone who can buy themselves whatever they want and new relation

[buddha55]

My boyfriend and I met on new years. official just a couple of weeks ago. haven't had sex. we're both smitten. Just one of those relationships where you know it's right. We are both very excited to celebrate valentines day with one another. He has quite a bit of money, doesn't really need to work. I am genuinely happy just that we will get to spend time together on this day. He says he found a gift for me.... I planned on getting him a card and writing a very thoughtful note... what else?? Having only known eachother 6 weeks it's hard to know details of cutesy things I could get him or his favorite stuff... I know he is not really going to care either way, but it's hard to pick out a gift for someone who could purchase whatever he wanted and who you've only known for 6 weeks. ideaS?

[Slimpee]

The best gifts are always those that have some meaning. It doesn't have to be expensive or extravagant, but it should mean something to him.

[Slagar]

Sit down with a pen and paper, shut off distractions, and actually think "What could I get him?"

Look up sites to give you ideas as a starting point can be a good idea too.

I find this works better than going shopping and hoping to find something "perfect". I find it easier to come up with unique ideas when my senses are not bombarded with distractions.

 

What do you know about him? What does he enjoy? Is there anything he has mentioned to you that could give you some ideas?

What are your skills? You've mentioned writing a nice note, but maybe you could do something creative and artsy that will mean a lot more than buying an actual gift? (e.g. if you enjoy painting, paint something)

What have you done together? Perhaps you could do something that reminds you of him during a memory you shared.

 

Also, don't let the money aspect bother you. It's likely he knows that he could potentially buy whatever he wants, and will not expect too much of you in that regard - besides, as you know it's really the thought that counts.

 

Those are a few thoughts anyway; it's not an easy task at the best of times. Good luck finding the right gift!

[chitown9]

Why don't you bake some valentine cookies. The 99 cent store has the heart cutouts. You can decorate the cookies many ways with frosting and sprinkes. The Dollar Tree has a lot of valentine merchandise like valentine tissue paper that you cook pack the cookies with in a valentine box. I think he would enjoy something handmade from you...

[Circe]

Something (maybe cufflinks?) engraved with a message from you. He can't buy himself anything engraved with a message from you. Only you can buy him that For that matter - he can't buy himself a gift from you. Only you can Point is - he'll love it just because it's from you - not necessarily because of its functional value. Hopefully knowing that eases the pressure and anxiety of "what should I get" too. A book you think he'd like. A massage you think he deserves (even if he could buy it himself if he wanted). Some new piece of equipment for a sport he plays (even if he could buy it himself). Basically forget the "he could buy it himself" aspect and just pretend he can't buy it himself. That way you'll get him something you think he wants and he'll hopefully appreciate the gesture.

 

Personally we've scrapped V-day from our books. We have birthdays and an anniversary during the v-day period and it's just too hard to follow my own advice about gifts. I'm so gifted out I suggested scrapping v-day and we're now a lot more relieved and stress-free for it!! lol

[Gimpyrks]

My boyfriend and I met on new years. official just a couple of weeks ago. haven't had sex. we're both smitten. Just one of those relationships where you know it's right. We are both very excited to celebrate valentines day with one another. He has quite a bit of money, doesn't really need to work. I am genuinely happy just that we will get to spend time together on this day. He says he found a gift for me.... I planned on getting him a card and writing a very thoughtful note... what else?? Having only known eachother 6 weeks it's hard to know details of cutesy things I could get him or his favorite stuff... I know he is not really going to care either way, but it's hard to pick out a gift for someone who could purchase whatever he wanted and who you've only known for 6 weeks. ideaS?

 

You shouldn't feel obligated to get him a gift. It's not his birthday or Christmas. I would think just being with him would be enough.

Sorry I think V day is over-rated xD

But if you want to do something really cool, make him a home-made card that is super thoughtful and that means you actually had to sit down and do it instead of buy it. Since he can buy anything.

[orchidrose]

Are there any interests that you share? My new boyfriend and I are both big baseball fans, so I bought us tickets to go to opening day for his favorite team.

 

It's good that you've discussed Valentine's Day with him - I mentioned it to my boyfriend last week and he said we could do something, but after talking to him about it more, he's definitely not that into it. The nice thing is that before I would panic about V-Day and how it was so important in my past relationships, but now, like you, I'm happy with the thought of just spending it with him. I don't think we're even going to do anything special, and that's fine by me.

[RedDress]

Personally, I wouldn't overthink. A box of chocolates. Most everyone loves chocolate and it's really just a thought. Next year you can go all out on the meaningful. This year, I'd go with just a simple gesture.

[buddha55]

wonderful and helpful responses!!! thank you!

[Batya33]

Homemade cookies.

[Rangafro]

Something (maybe cufflinks?) engraved with a message from you. He can't buy himself anything engraved with a message from you. Only you can buy him that

 

I got exactly this for a birthday once - a wrist band with an engraving. Solution to getting a gift for someone who can buy anything = give them something money can't buy.