starlette08 Posted February 10, 2012 Share Posted February 10, 2012 i knowww--- everyone is going to say "why did u do it? what were u expecting out of it?" i just was really hurting and felt like i need to hear from him. so i did it. its been about 1 week NC. i said "hey.. hope that you're having a good week. thinking of you, and wanted to say hi" he wrote back 2 hrs later "hey... my week was good....busy but productive.. hope you had a good week too" im an idiot for breaking NC. i am supposed to give him space to think, but i guess i wanted to let him know i was still there for him. what to do now? Link to comment
QSP Posted February 10, 2012 Share Posted February 10, 2012 Don't beat yourself up about it. It is growing pains. I been there if you fall get up and try again. After all you went a week with NC. next time go more than a week. Link to comment
digdug Posted February 10, 2012 Share Posted February 10, 2012 It's done, and you did what you felt you had to do. Now, just let it ride. Give him time to continue to think. Best thing you can do. Good luck! ~dig Link to comment
drmcsugar Posted February 10, 2012 Share Posted February 10, 2012 Hey, don't worry about what you can't change in the past and what he'll react in the future. Think about it this way, at least he still responded to you. If he didn't care at all, he would have blocked you, cursed you out, changed his phone number, right? Just try to be strong and focus on the present, not the past and what happened. Link to comment
lolgirl Posted February 10, 2012 Share Posted February 10, 2012 Hi...read my post, I just posted it. It talks about my opinion on NC, and what I wish I did differently. 2.5 years later...our relationship is permanently broken. Good luck, friend. It'll get easier. Link to comment
HopeArises Posted February 10, 2012 Share Posted February 10, 2012 i knowww--- everyone is going to say "why did u do it? what were u expecting out of it?" i just was really hurting and felt like i need to hear from him. so i did it. its been about 1 week NC. i said "hey.. hope that you're having a good week. thinking of you, and wanted to say hi" he wrote back 2 hrs later "hey... my week was good....busy but productive.. hope you had a good week too" im an idiot for breaking NC. i am supposed to give him space to think, but i guess i wanted to let him know i was still there for him. what to do now? 1 week is just not long enough. It's showing him that you are dependent on him. Anything over a month is good. When you feel weak next time, DON'T do it. Do it when you feel CONFIDENT and STRONG, because when you do it when you are sad, lonely, insecure, weak, needy, he WILL pick up on it (even in a text). If you can get through the rough times on your own, you will come out stronger and independent and if you choose to contact him at THAT POINT. He will will sense something different in you. Don't beat yourself up too much over this. We ALL do it (I have as well). Just know that while 1 week feels like an eternity to you, in reality it's not even enough time for him to realize that you two haven't spoken. Again, anywhere from 1-2 months (MINIMUM) will have him start to take notice and it will do wonders for you too. Link to comment
Sanders24 Posted February 10, 2012 Share Posted February 10, 2012 i knowww--- everyone is going to say "why did u do it? what were u expecting out of it?" No im an idiot for breaking NC. No your not, your human. Not a piece of robot trash. i wanted to let him know i was still there for him. Dont let your mind play games with you pushing you to keep telling him those things. He already knows that. what to do now? Dont be hard on yourself. Leave your break of NC in the past and start again. When you get the urge to do it again, remind yourself what good did it brought to you last time. Maybe it was a relief for a few minutes/hours but after that your back in the craap again. Link to comment
starlette08 Posted February 10, 2012 Author Share Posted February 10, 2012 thank you, i am an impatient enough person as it is... this waiting is brutal. but i KNOW i have to let him have his space. i know he is hurt. i can tell by his texts. i wish he knew how much i was hurting too ='( Link to comment
duke nukem Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 Well I just called my ex's house to speak to her dad, and she answered (eek!). But she was upbeat and so was I. Talked for a minute or two, wished each other a good week and said bye. Unfortunately, my NC was broken, and it had only been a week, but it was an accident! But even one week has helped me a lot and allowed me to think on what I need to change, etc. So don't worry, it happens, and you will feel better. Friday I was still crying from time to time and racked with grief, but the next day I had an odd epiphany and feel better about being able to work on me. I guess part of it is because I think we may have another shot sometime, but even if not at least I'll get to date other women! (Even if I don't really want to yet) Look for the bright side. And sorry for the mini hijack! Link to comment
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