OuchMyBrain Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 So I wrote on enotalone a week or so ago about my co-worker ex and all the craziness dealing with him. Well anyways, after a lot of drama happened at work, him and I are on speaking terms again. Not Best Friends Forever speaking terms, but at least civil and nice, even maybe an occasional joke. I realized that by doing No Contact, he felt he was winning, basically cause he kind of told me that. I realized that no matter what, the consequences of his actions, and the fact that he's now in a relationship with my worst bully, really is a clear sign to me that I would never take him back or give him another chance. I'd rather kill him with kindness, in the sense that I will be nice to him, and either one day he'll realize how badly he screwed me over, or maybe he won't, but it doesn't matter anymore, because I will never give him another chance to be with me in that way. ANYWAYS....so recently I asked him if he could give me back these 2 love letters I had written him. They were very important to me, and he basically cried over one of them. They outlined so many things I loved about him, and all of our good memories. I wrote them when I was at a really low point in our relationship, sort of as a last hope. I want them back because having them back would be final closure for me. I actually feel like if I had those letters, a physical tangible representation of all the memories we had together, i'd be able to throw them out, and forget we were even together. I asked for these letters, and he was pissed off. He told me they represent good times to him, and I get that he probably just wants them to reflect and give himself an ego boost. But quite frankly...he doesn't deserve to have them anymore. He does not deserve something clearly defining the love I had for him. I want those letters back. I even told him that if he had thrown them out, that'd be okay, I just want them either trashed or given back so I can trash them. From the dumper's, or guy's perspective, is that sort of extreme for me to want them back? like i'm not taking no for an answer, and if he's with his new girlfriend, he should give them back anyways. He had the entire work week to give me them, and he still hasn't. So last night I texted him, reminding him to bring them, and he ignored my text. Like I said, I feel like if I have them back, I gain some sense of control of the past, and to me they were very monumental, and he should not have possession over them anymore. Thoughts? Link to comment
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