nikos2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Some advice on the way forward? Had a friendly relationship with a woman at work, turned into something more over the space of two months, like-minded, physically compatible, interested in the same things, good music, literature, culture. Were seeing each other for two months, pretty regularly, plus smoke breaks, crossword sharing at work etc. Great evenings out, cooking dinner etc, texting about how much fun we'd had. Then she breaks up with me the day before Christmas holidays.Spend Christmas apart but still communicating almost daily (both abroad in separate countries) So back in the UK in Jan, few chats about the relationship. She was freaked out about the intimacy, the emotions, how well we'd got on together. The relationship failed through its own success! So two hellish weeks at work, ignoring each other, tensions, sleeplessness etc. Then a bit more contact, few emails, texts, smoke breaks. But every time we do, we fall back into the relaxed 'close' relationship again. Then both back of for two days or so. It seems the connection is still strongly there. When we contact it just makes me feel the same as I felt when we were seeing each other, but then we 'bounce' away again. It's better than the early ignoring and tension, but just prolonging the agony especially when I know she obviously feels the same way, but just accept it or commit. We really can;t avoid each other at work (though don;t work in the same office) but this just causes as much pain as not seeing her. Help, what can I do? Link to comment
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