stuka80 Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 So here's the story, i have a very good work relationship with a female co-worker of mine(lets call her M). We basically work practically side by side even though we dont have to because we just enjoy each others company. This has been going on for a few months now and during that time she's developed a huge crush on another male co-worker of ours and he with her and she tells me all her little secrets and fantasies about him(she's married btw) and we both just laugh it up. I have absolutely no romantic feelings for her whatsoever and i thought she felt the same. Our relationship has purely been professional and friendly since the beginning. Here's where it kinda got complicated. My work schedule changed a bit and we dont get to spend time with each other as much at work as we used to. So my lunch break isnt the same as hers anymore so i've been either going to lunch by myself or going with other people, though i prefer being alone usually. So anyway the last couple times i went to lunch this other female co-worker(call her J) who i get along with went the same time i did and basically invited herself to go with me during lunch time, which i didnt really mind. As we were walking down the hallway we come accross my friend M (who i havent seen the entire day until now) and i gesture towards my watch and say to her "lunch time" with a stupid smirk on my face and she just smiles at me as she walked by and says "ok" So anyway i get back from lunch and see her a couple of hours later and i approach her as she's working. So i say hi to her and just casually talk to her about nothing important and she immediately says to me "so you've been going to lunch with J alot lately huh?". Immediately from her tone i noticed something was up, so i just responded "yea a couple of times" and continued to talk to her though confused as hell by this point because the whole time i was talking to her she was not her usual friendly self to me and instead was not even looking at me and continued to work and generally give me the cold shoulder. So i noticed this and asked if there was something wrong though i already suspected it had something to do with me going to lunch with J. When she ignored my question i said jokingly "is this because i went to lunch with J?" but to be honest i was bewildered because i had not expected her to be mad at me over that. Her response was that she was not mad at me for going to lunch with J but because i did not greet her properly when we ran into each other in the hallway and instead just said "lunch time" and she said it was really rude of me to not greet her. She's from Iran btw so maybe in their culture not greeting each other is a really rude gesture but since we're very comfortable with each other i had thought that it didnt matter to her, apparently i was wrong. So i tried explaining to her that i didnt mean anything by it and that i did say hi to her properly just now but she was visibly very mad at me and told me to go back and talk to J instead because she didnt want to talk to me. I thought * * * ?? i kinda got irritated at that and left her alone after that. I couldnt help but think that theres no way she got that mad at me over not saying hi the 1st time and maybe instead she got jealous that i went to lunch with another co-worker instead because of the whole "go talk to her instead" attitude. Anyway i dont think she has any feelings for me that way because like i said, she's been telling me how much she's in love with this other co-worker of ours but that whole incident started to make me think that maybe she does. So do you guys really think she got mad at me because i didnt say hi to her or was she jealous of this other girl i went to lunch with? btw i have no romantic interest with either of them. Any thoughts? EDIT: i had just remembered something else that occurred probably about a month ago that has reinforced my view that maybe she does have feelings for me. She told me that her crush at work had asked her out. I was happy for her and told her congratulations and was genuinely happy for her but after a couple minutes she admitted to me that she was just joking around with me and told me that only to see if i got jealous. I was thinking huh?? but then brushed it off as her being just joking around with me but now it's gotten me thinking... Link to comment
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