pixelpaste Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Went out with a girl and I really like her, we got lunch and talked for about 3 hours. I found that we have much in common. When we departed we hugged. Should we have kissed? lol when is the average dater supposed to kiss? 1st date 2nd date 3rd? We have another date later this week. Thanks Link to comment
camus154 Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Do it on the next date. Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 If she is a slow dater, don't kiss her yet unless you want a slap accross or punch on your face. If she is a fast dater, then kiss her on the next date. By kiss, you mean by make out. Link to comment
pixelpaste Posted February 8, 2012 Author Share Posted February 8, 2012 I appreciate your advice, but um how do you know whether someone is fast or slow? I mean, she seems pretty straightforward (she initiated the meetup). We shook hands in the beginning so this is sort a blind date situation. Link to comment
camus154 Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 You don't. Which is why you man up and kiss her on the next date. You're not going to get slapped. Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 You don't. Which is why you man up and kiss her on the next date. You're not going to get slapped. YEA YOU WILL GET SLAP. It depends on her culture, or who she is as a person. Depends what type of girl she is as well. If I were you or a guy, I would play it safe unless she keeps HUGGING you constantly. That's your move to give her a kiss. If you move in for a kiss, and she pushes you to back off. That's a sign to not go in for a kiss next time. It's her move. Trust me, I know. Link to comment
camus154 Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Lol, I doubt it. And if you do, so friggin' what? Seriously, men need to quit being such weenies and take some chances in life. What is it with everyone wanting to play things so safe and wanting all kinds of guarantees before asking a girl out or calling her or making a move? No wonder women are bored to tears with us. Link to comment
pixelpaste Posted February 8, 2012 Author Share Posted February 8, 2012 I'll go for the kiss on the next date. She can always push me back or slap me, and a push could just as well be a slap anyway. When I look at it from another perspective; for certain kiss her, it seems unreasonable that the relationship will collapse if that option turns to a fault, especially since we get along so well. Right? thanks you two Link to comment
camus154 Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Good for you, guy. You kept your man card Link to comment
BlueEagle Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 You just have to go with your instincts. If it feels right then go for it. By that if you sense she's into you. I wouldn't wait any longer than the third date though. I waited until the third date on my last relationship, but earlier that night we were holding hands. That's a good indicator before you go in for a kiss. Will she let you hold her hand? If so, it might be the right timing. Whatever you do though, just don't ask if you can kiss her. It's a real mood killer that I think most women would agree on! Good luck! Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Lol, I doubt it. And if you do, so friggin' what? Seriously, men need to quit being such weenies and take some chances in life. What is it with everyone wanting to play things so safe and wanting all kinds of guarantees before asking a girl out or calling her or making a move? No wonder women are bored to tears with us. Dude, I'm just warning him. It's not being weenies or anything. It's called being respectful. Those women who are bored are the ones are seeking "someone that challenges them constantly." You seriously wanna be in that type of relationship that go for it. Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 I'll go for the kiss on the next date. She can always push me back or slap me, and a push could just as well be a slap anyway. When I look at it from another perspective; for certain kiss her, it seems unreasonable that the relationship will collapse if that option turns to a fault, especially since we get along so well. Right? thanks you two LOL Let's hope she doesn't know karate. That be bad. If she pushes you, I wouldn't go for it again. Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 You just have to go with your instincts. If it feels right then go for it. By that if you sense she's into you. I wouldn't wait any longer than the third date though. I waited until the third date on my last relationship, but earlier that night we were holding hands. That's a good indicator before you go in for a kiss. Will she let you hold her hand? If so, it might be the right timing. Whatever you do though, just don't ask if you can kiss her. It's a real mood killer that I think most women would agree on! Good luck! Seriously, don't play by the rules. OP, go what works for you. I'm just warning you, if she is the type of girl that likes to take dates slow and getting to know you, then PLEASE respect her boundaries. Holding hands doesn't mean she wants to kiss you. She might like you but doesn't mean it's the right time to kiss. I disagree that it's REAL MOOD KILLER. Come on you're getting to know each other by the third date still. Then again, it depends on the girl. I'm pretty sure the girl knows when to push/slap a guy if she doesn't want to be kiss. So OP, it's up to you. Link to comment
figur Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 If it feels right, go for it at the next date. Nothing forceful, so go in with a bit of a smile and see if she reciprocates. She may not go for it, but her reaction will let you know if she just isn't ready or decides that now she hates you. My own example with current boyfriend: 1st date: he initiated a hug and I am not at all a hugger, but went for it. Nice embrace, we had really hit it off. 2nd date: awkward kiss on his part that I somewhat avoided cos I wasn't expecting it and it went to my forehead. 3rd date: I kissed him first which culminated in sleeping together. So...there are no rules. Just go for what feels right. Link to comment
BlueEagle Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Holding hands doesn't mean she wants to kiss you. She might like you but doesn't mean it's the right time to kiss. No, it may or may not necessarily, but it shows she is at least open to more affection. He needs to go with his instinct. Only he will know by the vibes she is giving off if he feels she is open to it. I disagree that it's REAL MOOD KILLER. Come on you're getting to know each other by the third date still. Asking a girl for permission to kiss her while on a date just seems to reek of a lack of confidence, which can indeed be a mood killer for women. I would think most females would tend to agree and would welcome to hear their feedback. Instead, take a risk, be bold, IF you're picking up good vibes from her. Of course it varies from girl to girl, and it's okay to go slow while getting to know someone and absolutely to be respectful, but I'd caution not to play it too safe lest you might find yourself banished to the "friend zone." Just my opinion though. Do as you will, OP, only YOU will know if and when the timing feels right to go in for the kiss. It'll just feel right. Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 LOL To some girls may seem a lack of confidence, but to some, it might be cute. Screw the friend zone. You will know when you're a friend zone when the persona automatically ignores you. Link to comment
Glowguy Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Second date is the ideal time. If you don't do it by the third date then it's game over. Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Second date is the ideal time. If you don't do it by the third date then it's game over. Ha ha, maybe something is wrong with me. I didn't kiss my first boyfriend until the the third month. But good luck to the OP! Link to comment
Glowguy Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 I didn't kiss my first boyfriend until the the third month. Wow slow down there tiger! I hope for his sake it doesn't take that long. I've gone past three dates before kissing but only because the attraction wasn't there and it definitely wasn't going to work out anyway. If I am attracted to her then I feel compelled to do it quickly. Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Wow slow down there tiger! I hope for his sake it doesn't take that long. I've gone past three dates before kissing but only because the attraction wasn't there and it definitely wasn't going to work out anyway. If I am attracted to her then I feel compelled to do it quickly. Ha ha, lol that's such an oxymoron. It did. ;] We ended being together for a year. LOL It depends on the girl. Link to comment
epsilon2x Posted February 10, 2012 Share Posted February 10, 2012 You're not gonna get slapped. She obviously likes you enough to go on a date and hangout for 3 hours. It's not like you are trying to have sex with her, it's just a kiss. Go for it on the next date. Link to comment
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