Girls.. Do you kiss your man goodbye?

[chillout]

This one is for the ladies , men feel free to give your 2 cents.

Something bothers me about me and my girlfriend , it's minor but it bothers me.

 

Both me and my girlfriend are in college and have been going out for a little more then a year now.

The other day I dropped her of to her class and gestured for a hug (yes just a hug) and she refused. I laughed it off, but i felt a bit empty and as if she was almost ashamed of me.

 

Now today, I dropped her off to her bus stop and went in for a kiss goodbye and she turned away. This time i just put my head down and went my way , felt like crap. She called me a few minutes after and said,

'are you angry that i didn't kiss you?'. I replied , no and just changed the subject. I wasn't angry just a bit upset.

 

I've decided not to greet her goodbye in a physical way now - save me the embarrassment.

 

So ... am i overreacting and what do you think ladies? Am i asking for too much? Let me know!

 

Peace

[QSP]

Im not an expert or a lady but I don't think you are overreacting. After all she is your girl and you guys have been dating over a year and a kiss goodbye wouldn't hurt in my opinion.

[GreenCupcake]

You are not overreacting at all. She seems embarrassed for some reason.

[chitown9]

Gosh, that would make me feel bad too.

[Seraphim]

My husband was like that when we first met. His family does not like public displays of affection AT ALL. In fact I have never seen his dad hug his mother once and I have known them 23 years. I am a very touchy feely person. I always hug. Now my husband is used to it and he does not find this to be an issue. Maybe she was raised in a house like my husband's?

[chillout]

Im not an expert or a lady but I don't think you are overreacting. After all she is your girl and you guys have been dating over a year and a kiss goodbye wouldn't hurt in my opinion.

 

That's exactly what i was thinking.

 

@Victoria66:

Well, a little background info. She used to willingly hug other guys a while ago, until she wasn't too fond of me hugging other girls. So we just don't hug other people.

It's weird. I have a great time with her but then it crashes when she pulls away.

Sad.

[OptomisticGirl]

Yes I kiss my husband good bye but I'm falling Vic's train of thought - perhaps PDA is why she's uncomfortable doing it.

[chillout]

Yes I kiss my husband good bye but I'm falling Vic's train of thought - perhaps PDA is why she's uncomfortable doing it.

Thanks for your response.

 

It's either that or she's embarrassed of me I reckon. I guess I won't hug/kiss her infront of people then

[The_Seeker]

Thanks for your response.

 

It's either that or she's embarrassed of me I reckon. I guess I won't hug/kiss her infront of people then

 

To be honest, I think she's embarrassed.

 

If you're crazy about someone, you would tackle hug and kiss them and NOT WANT TO LET GO.

 

Unless she's a WICKED SHY person I can see why she is holding back. But even though she is holding back she would have let you kiss her.

 

I don't know. If I were a guy and a girl did that to me, I would let her know about it. If she gives a bs excuse, I'm moving on.

[chillout]

To be honest, I think she's embarrassed.

 

If you're crazy about someone, you would tackle hug and kiss them and NOT WANT TO LET GO.

 

Unless she's a WICKED SHY person I can see why she is holding back. But even though she is holding back she would have let you kiss her.

 

I don't know. If I were a guy and a girl did that to me, I would let her know about it. If she gives a bs excuse, I'm moving on.

 

I think you're right. She's not wicked shy, maybe a little but not wicked level.

 

You're awesome , I'm taking that into account!

[Momma1390]

You sound young. Remember communication makes for a good relationship. Confront her and be sure to tell her you are upset.

[chillout]

You sound young. Remember communication makes for a good relationship. Confront her and be sure to tell her you are upset.

 

Thanks for your reply.

Yeah we're 18. Been together for around 13 months now.

If i confront her , i'll feel like she's hugging and kissing me because i confronted her. And not out of her own will.

[Momma1390]

Look you've been in a relationship with this girl for 13 months. I've been with the same person for 33 years. The reason we are together is we have amazing communication between us. The next time you are holding her in your arms and kissing her just quietly tell her how much you love her. Then just tell her how important it is to you that you always always part with a hug and/or kiss. Don't make it a big deal.

[Gracelove]

When I'm in a relationship, I always kiss my man goodbye...oh, unless it's in front of other people, then I just give a hug. I don't really like to show much PDA in front of others because I think it's a little rude. It can make people uncomfortable, not everyone is okay with seeing people make out.

 

However, if someone I was with really wanted a kiss in public, I would allow it, I've done it before. I wouldn't leave him hanging, it just wouldn't be a long kiss.

[pinkelephant]

I don't kiss my bf infront of other people, but at least a hug. what's wrong with hugs?! i hug my friends! if she won't hug you, i find that weird.

[giggles1]

i dont think you are overreacting at all!!She seems a little shy but you guys been going out for a year which doesn't make sense.Maybe you can talk to her about it..so that way you guys wont have too much misunderstandings.

[The_Seeker]

I think you're right. She's not wicked shy, maybe a little but not wicked level.

 

You're awesome , I'm taking that into account!

 

;] Naw. I'm just being realistic.

 

Seriously, when you really really like someone, you wouldn't mind. I can understand if it's a makeout but if it's just a peck on the cheek,lip, or forehead. That should be ok.