i feel obsessed

[indigoblue]

I lost my virginity to this guy I met online who finally admitted that he only saw me as a friend. I respected his honesty, but at the same time I felt a little irritated and disappointed. I should have known better because we hadn't known each other for more than 2 weeks when we had sex, and I told him at the time that my v-card wasn't a big deal. I didn't tell him I was a virgin when I jumped into bed with him, so really he had no obligation to commit from the start but I just feel like I can't let go because maybe my virginity was important to me. We text casually once in a while but I'm not even sure if it will ever go anywhere. I still want to keep in touch with him, but realistically it might not go anywhere. I think about him constantly, I'm not sure what to do with it.

[annie24]

i'd accept that things aren't going to go further with this guy. i'd focus on meeting some other guys and getting to know them more before going onto the next step (sex). or if you do, just know that it might not become more than that.

[indigoblue]

It kind of sucks. I think I'm going to take a break from online dating It seems that things get quite physical/sexual with a few people I meet.

[pl3asehelp]

It kind of sucks. I think I'm going to take a break from online dating It seems that things get quite physical/sexual with a few people I meet.

 

I don't think this situation really has anything to do with online dating. Sounds like you were somewhat dishonest with him and went way too fast. Such a shame - sorry you didn't have a more positive experience.

[indigoblue]

At first he refused to believe I was a virgin before we had sex. I mean I fooled around with my ex-boyfriend, and even he still thought I was a virgin after having sex with the other guy. I didn't tell him because for some reason, I still wasn't over my ex and I kind of just used him as a rebound. Now I realized I am so over my ex bf, but I regret having had sex too soon with this man.

[pl3asehelp]

At first he refused to believe I was a virgin before we had sex. I mean I fooled around with my ex-boyfriend, and even he still thought I was a virgin after having sex with the other guy. I didn't tell him because for some reason, I still wasn't over my ex and I kind of just used him as a rebound. Now I realized I am so over my ex bf, but I regret having had sex too soon with this man.

 

You have a very mature attitude about it. Many people will never admit they regret anything.

[In the Dark]

In reality many of us do regret who we lose our virginity to and how we lost it.

In honesty I believe it is something unnecessarily fussed over in the end.