Ratman81 Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 I find myself in an odd situation with a girl I work with (not sure whether to stick this here or in friendship and friends). Background as follows. I work in a museum as does this girl and I had been trying to make new friends there (myself being new), a bunch of us were going for a night out, but most cancelled so it was just me and the girl, I asked her if she still wanted to go out, it being just her and me and she said yes. So we went out and had a meal then went for drinks afterwards, out for 6 hours or so in the end (I was running out of conversation by the end) Anyway we were getting on fine, chatting away, she said she was sort of seeing someone (implied it might end soon) anyway this didn't bother me as I was just looking to get to know people there and see what came of it and was perfectly happy to just be friends. So anyway the night went well or so it seemed and while there was probably going to be no romance there was a good chance I was making a new friend. So fast forward a week and I send her a text asking how she is and describing something funny that happened at work. While we both work the same museums trust we generally work in different museums so we don't run into eachother that often. There was nothing flirty or forward in the message, but there was also no reply, I began to have a suspicion that something might be wrong. A week after that she was in the same museum as me and I went to say hello as I was leaving for the day and there was a definite atmosphere or awkwardness so I left. I later thought it was just me over analysing things or being paranoid, but today I was working in the same museum as her again and again went to say hi and again there was definite awkwardness, a sense that I was not welcome. Should I send her a message asking her whats wrong, asking what I might have done to upset her or just leave it. I'd rather sort out any problems and move forward rather than leave something hanging over my head. I've put this topic in this section because I suspect the problem may be that she thinks I'm trying to woo (love that word) her. I can go into more details about the night out if that helps. Basically I just want to understand what I've done and how to get out of it. While I was attracted to her its very much a casual thing and I was not going to pursue it and was fully intending to just be friends, now I don;t know where things stand. Link to comment
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