Success4me Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 Hey all, I used to prowl these forums often(although never joined) looking for hope when my ex gf broke up with me and thought I would come back to share my story. Back in March of 2010 my gf of a little over a year broke up with me(she was 24, I was 25). The last 3 months of our relationship we both started working alot and hardly ever got to see each other(even though we lived together). We both turned into people we didn't like and were unhappy with our lives. So one day she comes home and tells me she can't do this anymore. She doesn't know who she is anymore and what she wants and feels lost and felt like she was killing me(I had been losing sleep the last few weeks before b/c I knew we were in trouble). At first I told her that I was going out and when I got back I wanted her gone and never wanted to see her again. However I was 20min into my drive when I turned around and talked to her before she left. We talked about how we both felt the same way, unhappy with our lives, lost ourselves etc... it was a 2 hour talk and then she left. I was devasted the first 2 weeks, I cried, sat around feeling bad for myself, and doing nothing. B/c we had a apartment together(she moved out but kept paying her half of the rent) NC was not a option. However I only contacted her for apartment reasons, and if she ever contacted me for non apartment reasons I was always polite and never rude, however communication eventually dwindled to near nothing after about 6 weeks. After my 2 week "mourning period" I got up and got my life back(something that I think everyone needs to do who is going through a break up). I worked out and got back in shape, quit my job and completely changed careers. I started voulnteering and going out again and pretty much just became the person that I wanted to be. I slowly thought about her less and less. After about 3 months I even had a new gf(although short lived) About 8 months after our b/u she texted me asking how I was doing. I texted back and said I was doing well and suggested we meet up to catch up. That following weekend we did and had a great time(turns out she had dated someone else as well), and continued to hang out a few times after that. on the 4th or 5th time she bought up our old relationship and we talked about what happenend and she told me that she never stopped wondering about me and I told her the same. We kept talking and found out that we were both different people, and I asked her if I could take her out on a first date. I explained that I had no desire to pick up where we left off, but start something new. We couldn't forget our past, but we couldn't let it get in the way either. She agreed and here we are almost 1 year later and we are still dating! I hope this helps some people, what worked for me was moving on( I never even considered getting back together with her). Don't just sit there feeling bad for yourself, get out and live the life you want and become the person you want to be and life will take care of the rest. Link to comment
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