LSgirl Posted October 30, 2011 Share Posted October 30, 2011 It's been 8 days of NC and i'm confused and angry that my ex bf of 10 months hasn't tried to contact me when he broke up with me in a text message. He doesn't seem like the type to just leave it at that and have the decency to at least call or e-mail. I know he's no longer responsible for the way I feel, but a text message? I'll paraphrase some of the things he said when he broke up with me: "I don't want to fight anymore or at all. I can't keep up with these arguments, I don't think this can last" "Don't chase something I'm never going to give you (love). I have to move on and let you find the one person who can" "I'm sorry, we're done. I know you can never forgive me." "We had lots of fun and you will always have a place in my heart. Goodbye" All through text message! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostinthecloud Posted October 30, 2011 Share Posted October 30, 2011 That is unfortunate that he broke up with you over text message. did you suspect that any of this was coming? And have you tried to get a hold of him instead of waiting? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachelxbx Posted October 30, 2011 Share Posted October 30, 2011 i would stick with no contact and dont chase him because all that happens when you chase someone is u push them further away and u give them an ego boost if he truley loves u and wanted you back he will contact u until then i would try and move on as hard as it is i am doing the same thing at the moment and finding it really hard but at the end of the day u will survive jst like me girl xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LSgirl Posted October 30, 2011 Author Share Posted October 30, 2011 Just the day before we were fine, he was going to stop by and get me a surprise that he's been waiting to give me (still never found out what it was). In the past 2-3 weeks prior, we had arguments (rarely argued before), but nothing serious, but he told an acquaintance of mine that "we are on the rocks" but he's not the type to start any agrguments or confrontational. He's actually a gentleman so I was surprised that he woudln't have the decency to call instead of text (the last argument did start with a text tho) I don't want to contat him since I'm doing NC (the hour after he broke up with me I did keep calling and begging him back, but that was it, no more attempts) I just don't get it, maybe it was easier for him to do it over text bc he didn't want to hear me cry, i don't know. It says we're still in a relationship on FB but I'm trying to pretend I havent logged on since the breakup, i want him to change it since he broke up with me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deejmonster Posted October 30, 2011 Share Posted October 30, 2011 let him come around, each person takes a different amount of time to cope and make up their mind about what they really want. Chasing and questioning is only going to upset him more. Its sad but its the best way to do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lithp Posted October 30, 2011 Share Posted October 30, 2011 Change your Facebook status, block and delete him, and start moving on. 8 days isn't long enough, so of course you are going to still have questions and confusion/anger/etc... That may not go away for a while, especially considering the reasoning and method of breaking up with you. Doing something like that over text to someone is an awfully cowardly way out. I am sure it was just because he didn't want to get caught up in all the emotion or deal with actually having to say it to your face. Still not cool, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DustinMilk Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 I know it's hard, but why give up? I was reading earlier because I'm in a similar situation, and I found a forum thread that really helped lift my spirits and give me a new perspective. link removed I hope it helps you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LSgirl Posted October 31, 2011 Author Share Posted October 31, 2011 Thank you guys for replying. It's day 9 today, I don't think he's going to contact me at this point, it's just been too long without a word. He's really trying to move on. I also read the article u attached a link here. I know we're all going to get through this, but it truly is one of the worst pains you can go through life is a heartbreak. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Notagoodninja Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 It's day 11 for me. And don't think he hasn't moved on. I used to believe all my ex's lies. I finally went with a gf and spied on him late Saturday night. SURE ENOUGH he was out and about all dolled up with shaved face and new hair cut. He was getting his sexy on...and I bet your ex is too! If you have to go find out...do it...it will break your heart but it will end it for good! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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