Lone She Wolf Posted October 30, 2011 Share Posted October 30, 2011 So, my bf and I have been having a rough time. We had a big fight a few weeks ago where he was putting me down about my career, which is one of the most important things in my life. Consequently, this huge opportunity for my career is coming up and I have been extremely busy getting prepared and the last thing I wanted was to get distracted by our problems, so I told him I needed some time to concentrate on work for a few days to prepare. In the last few days, we've been kind of distant, but last night I really wanted to turn things around and start getting past these issues. So, I called him and he didn't answer my phone calls, or emails. He had sent me a Good Night email at 730pm which I though was kind of early, but he's done that in the past when he feels down - or so he has told me...that he goes to bed early when he's depressed and sleeps all night. However, something about last night felt different - I don't know what it was or how to explain it, but I had this feeling that I should see if he was home. So I drove to his place, and he wasn't home - his car was gone, I rang the doorbell, he was not home. I waited around for about half hour thinking of why he would want me to believe that he was going to be by sending me a Good Night email and then leave to go out somewhere, and then proceed to not answer phone calls, voicemails, a text and an email. I'm in a bit of a shock because I never would have thought that he could lie to me, but I didn't want to over-react just yet, because, afterall he didn't say he was going to bed, he just said Good Night. So I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, I thought maybe he just needed to go out and drink somewhere, because he's done that in the past, but in the past, as far as I know, he hasn't lied abou it. So I went home and went to bed. Then this morning, he calls me and says "Sorry about last night, I wasn't feeling well, so I just turned off my phone and went to bed early and so that's why I didn't answer your calls." So now, at this point, I know with 100% certainty that he's lying to me. But now what do I do? Why would he have the need to lie if he was just going out? What could he have possibly been doing that he wanted me to think that he was in bed by sending me a good night email and then not answering my calls? I feel like I'm falling apart, I don't know what to do. Please help? Link to comment
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