neevent Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Hello everyone, I am new here. I have a 4 month old child and my partner left home last night and phone closed. Any one has experience? We are together 2 years. He promised to take care of his family before we decided to make the baby. But he has been disappointing. Since I was preganant, he started to work very hard, even late night, playing games. I basically managed the preganance by myself. After the child was born, he was helping with housework for a few weeks, then he is again work very hard, playing games till late night. Finacially I am paying more than him and I took the mortage because he has no savings. When it comes to housework, he agreed to do the hoovering, but I always have to hoover after him and knee on the floor to scrub kitchen and bathroom. We live in a very small apartment so hoovering is something like 10- 20 minutes work. I have to look after the baby during day and night, do food shopping, cooking (since he wants to have less traffic on the road, he leaves for work late and comes home late, usually I will get dinner ready by the time he is home), planning purchase for electronics, baby stuff, renovation...He will play with the baby for a while when he gets home and feeds him before he goes to sleep. I am really tired and tried to talk with him. He changes a bit then falls back to his nelegent self again. What worries me is our values are so different. I come from middle class family and want to have a nice home, nice job, nice kids. He comes from middle class family but his parents pampered all 3 kids so they dont have to go to colleges, dont have to find jobs (his brother has no education and not been working much), blah blah blah. I find it very hard to vision the future with him because he thinks middle class people are boring without own minds. He has been living with poor and unemployed (he thinks those are really creative people), playing in rock band, couldnt make money, then in his 30s he went to university, and during the last 2 years he got fixed term contract. Still he is saying the most important thing in his life is his dream. I am at the verge of thinking to kick him out. Any advice? Link to comment
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