Rabican Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Ill try to keep this brief. My wife and I have been together for 7 years, married about 2 (just background info, not really pertinant to the question). We live about 1000 miles from our immediate families, were down south, and both of our families are up north. So we dont see them often. Whenever the topic of family comes up, its pretty often that my wife will start making snide comments about my family and how 'their values are different than her family values'. The values shes talking about are things like my parents not pushing my brother and sister and I to go to college, or move out of the house sooner etc. She seems to insinuate that her parents way of doing things were 'better' as opposed to just different but doesnt really come out and say it. Shell say things like I think your parents just didnt do you any favors by not making you go to college. Recently she had been making quite a few comments about my brother, hes 28 but still lives at home. Until I dunno, the last year or two he hadnt been working. But now he has a full time job, pays his own bills, just bought a car etc. He also helps out a lot with stuff around my parents house etc... and I know they can use the help, both money wise, and otherwise as my dad has some health problems at the moment. This really isnt a huge deal, but I find it annoying. I dont see why she feels the need to criticize my brother for anything. Hes 1000 miles away, they dont talk to each other unless we go home for christmas etc. Nothing that he does really has any impact on her whatsoever. The other day she started on him after hearing me talking to my parents on skype. He got a car, she heard this, then proceeded (after I hung up skype) to say well hes still going to be living at home forever, its just sad, he should get a life, get his own place etc. I basically just tuned her out and told her I didnt care because Its not her life. If my brother wants to live at home til hes 90, well I wouldnt do it myself I wouldnt really recommend it either. Then again I dont see how or why it should bother me, let alone my wife. I dont know if shes just doing this just to pick a fight with me, or because for some reason this really does bother her but either way I find it rather annoying. I could think of a LOT of things her sister has done that I wouldnt do, but thats her life. I dont care. Im not going to invest my energy, time, etc. in other peoples problems (or percieved problems) when I have a life, family, marriage, bills, kids etc. of my own. This isnt really a huge issue to me in th e sense that Ill just avoid the topic most of the time, or ignore her critiques... I was just thinking about it and thought I would ask for some replies, any thoughts would be appreciated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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