Is there hope to rekindle this relationship?

[NatNat]

I have been going through a divorce for over 3 months now. I will be legally single again early December when I go to court. Its a mutual divorce and not nasty at all so it will be a clean break. When I broke the news about my divorce with my husband there was this guy I was friends with at work that was going through a 4 year relationship break up. We both leaned on each other for support and it just kind of blossomed from there. We dated for about 2 1/2 months. We spent alot of time together and talked all the time and saw each other alot since we obviously worked together. It was a great relationship and we both really enjoyed spending our time with one another. As time passed on I told him I wanted to still see him but date around and keep my "single" status. That didn't go over well at all and things went down hill from there. He wanted me to be his girlfriend and a commitment from me. I wasn't ready for a commitment especially not being fully out of my marriage. I saw potential in him to be a future boyfriend but I just couldn't make that commitment with him. Him and I have a AMAZING connection and awesome chemistry. I have NEVER in my life had the connect and chemistry I have had with him. He agreed as well and felt the same way. During our dating time he opened up to me and spilled his heart out and told me he was falling in love with me everything. I didn't really give him that in return and he even mentioned that. It was hard for me to open up when I am going through a divorce. I cant tell you how much this guy was head over heals for me. So one day I told him we needed to just take a break for a few weeks and just see from there...I backed away because he was falling way to hard and I wasn't ready. Then for about 3 days straight he started to act different towards me so I asked him to talk after work and he told me he wants it to be over between us but remain friends. So I said OK....I went on vacation for a week and the day I got back I reached out to him to tell him I missed him and wanted to hangout soon. He then told me he was dating someone else and that he tried to commit to me but I didn't want that so he moved on...I got pretty upset and pretty much told him to never talk to me again and to loose my # The following Monday I had to face him at work. We Ignored each other all day and it just was very uncomfortable. Then the next day Tuesday we didn't talk all day and then towards the end of the day he reached out to me saying he he didn't like how things were with us and that he wanted to be cool and be friends. We both apologies and agreed that timing between the two of us was just wrong and we should have waited and said things would probably would have been different if we just gave it some time after our relationships. Then we both agreed that down the road if we both are single and want to try again we would. I also did mention to him once my divorce was finalize I could commit to someone, but I never said it directed towards him. So once that convo was over there was no animosity between the two of us anymore. He started purposely walk near my desk several times a day just so I notice him. He would stop at my desk at least once or twice a day just to say hi and see how my day is going just to talk to me. He would walk by me and poke me in the shoulder or just friendly touch my back and walk away. He also told me the other day that I looked nice. I am getting several vibes for him that he is still into me and likes/loves me. The people that sit around me can tell the way he talks to me that he likes me and also with him going out of his way to purpose walk by me too. Its been a total of almost 2 1/2 weeks since we ended it and he literally got with this girl like a couple days after we ended it. So here are my questions for you all......

 

Should I just move on and forget about him?

Is this girl just a rebound?

Do you think he will come back around when my divorce is final?

Why is he still talking to me and showing interest when he says he moved on?

Is there hope for me to be with him after my divorce or do you think he's finished?

 

Normally I would just move on but I see this guy everyday at work and its hard to forget about someone when they are constantly around.

[Keyman]

Should I just move on and forget about him?

Sure if you want to but it would seem that to everyone but you that he is very interested. The thing is, I'm not sure you are interested.

 

Is this girl just a rebound?

Yes, but then technically so are you

 

Do you think he will come back around when my divorce is final?

It depends. You are currently telling him that you want to date around and possibly sleep with whomever without commitment until the divorce is settled and then you might just commit to someone, maybe him, maybe not.

 

Why is he still talking to me and showing interest when he says he moved on?

He's NOT moved on...duh. He is interested in your BECAUSE HE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU.

 

Is there hope for me to be with him after my divorce or do you think he's finished?

Just date him and tell him you would like to take it slowly until after the divorce is settled. But by telling him you want to date other people, you are pretty much telling him that he is not good enough now or ever. That you are even asking these questions would suggest that you are interested in him. So stop playing with him and tell him you want to be with him, but would like to just wait until after the divorce is settled. It may not seem like you are playing games (to you) but that is what you are doing. And once he gets sick of being led around by your half on half off approach, he might walk away compeltely. Get him if you want him. Make some rules and boundaries but quit the whole maybe and vagueness rubbish.

 

My apologies if the tone of this post seemed abrupt.