lifeisaparadox Posted October 27, 2011 Share Posted October 27, 2011 I have to admit, I am a bit of a party girl, but I don't go beyond drinking and smoking (pot/hookah). My boyfriend knew this going into the relationship. Don't get me wrong, I don't get faced and wake up next to a stranger... I know my limits and I am always completely aware of what I do. I stopped going to parties to spend time with him before going to uni (this was when we became official & exclusive). We went to one party together and he was the one who drank this time whilst I took care of him. I didn't care, really. Months later, here I am. I am studying abroad. I haven't smoked here yet and have only drank casually. Last month I went out with my friends to celebrate the end of our first big assessment and got a bit drunk and took one hit of pot. I was texting my bf periodically throughout this time, he knew where I was, what I was doing, and who I was with. When I got home, we talked and he said that what I did bugged him, but he said that I didn't have to stop what I was doing. Being respectable, I told him that I'll stop partying in that sense. A few days ago, he told me he was going to a club. I said that's no problem, just be safe. He told me he was gonna do E and I told him it bugged me. That was it. The next day he did E and drank and smoked pot. The thing is... I never told him he couldn't do any of those. I just stated that it bugged me knowing he did but whatever he did was up to him, as long as he had self-control. I said this because I didn't want to control him because I knew his last ex controlled him like crazy and he is bitter about it. Also, I'm not the type to be controlling either. I was really irritated when he told me. I feel like because I respected his feelings that I stopped my habits, that when I said I was annoyed that perhaps he'd respect my feelings back. Do I have the right to be irritated? Link to comment
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