rosie smith Posted October 27, 2011 Share Posted October 27, 2011 so to cut a long, long story short my ex and i broke up ten months, tried to work things out. My emotions got in the way instead of me being cooled and relaxed around him, he could not take it anymore I guess called me up to explain the pressure he felt etc etc. I told him that once he broke away from him that was it we were over and he said ok give me time we will talk in two months. few days later he started sleeping with his hr boss at work. three weeks later I dropped round his birthday present, just a small gesture, nothing special. he called me that evening crying, basically had a break down. told me he had to pick the present up from me as everytime he looked at it, it would remind him of me, I ended up going round to his place that night to pick up the present where he reminded me again how he needed time to sort his head out and then once he was done he would get to know me again. I then go home that night found he took me off facebook, skype and hotmail. I text him saying look what are you doing? if it is over between us and if you are doing all of this to push me away just so and that is it its over?? I also told him please don't say something you don't mean and mess about with my feelings and my emotions. this whole situation is not about you, it is about me to!! anyway five days later I caught him driving round to this womens he had already started sleeping with at ten at night, clearly for sex!! now it is two months later, I have not spoken to my ex however last week I asked him for all our holiday photos back. I know men normally don't get sublte hints but he needs to realise he might be loosing me, if he planned to or not. and even though I am not blaming myself but I do feel like I kind of pushed away from me and towards some women that clearly liked him and was prepared to give him sex straight away!!! anyway he came round to my parents, could not ring the doorbell or nothing and just dropped my mail and pictures through my parents door. so when I emailed him four days ago now saying thanks, I might need my things back soon he never replied now I know my ex is not a bad guy and I do think that may be he can not face me cause he feels guilty for how he has treated me and may be he just does not care anymore however I don't know what is going on in my ex head so this is why I am wanting a second opion on things my friend turned round and said to me today the only reason why he would not reply to your email about taking you things back is cause it is his way of him keeping hold of a part of you and as much as yes I should spell everything out to my ex if I really want him to get things but am I doing the right thing by not emailing him asking for my things, back I don't really need them. Guess I just thought I would test my ex and see if he was ready to properly get me out of his life for good or not yet. cause yes we might not be together at the mo and he might be sleeping with soneone else and yes I am single and if I wanted to be with someone, I am happy on my own, guess I could do but none of this means that after being in a relatioship with someone for 8 years means that I don't feel like he would forget about me just like that and I certainly have not forgotten about him and even though my feelings have changed towards him and I am not sure if I do love him now. I guess I just want someone to tell him am I doing the right thing by leaving my ex alone still, not even bothering to ask him about my things I would like back from the flat again, not bothering to confront him about anything and if one day he decides to work things out with me he will do or are we properly over in terms of the fact that may be my ex does not wanna talk to me ever again or anything?? and if this is the case why can't he just give me back what i have asked for and thats it we are properly over?? thanks for your help Link to comment
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